Sharing with others can be the farthest thing from your child's mind on any given day, but it is conspicuously absent when your tech-savvy 5-year-old is texting you hyperlinks from his iPhone with the exact color, make and model of the toys he wants
As a young parent in today's world, I worry about over-doing it and I worry about under-doing it, constantly walking a tightrope of give and take... so I thought I'd examine what it means to actually "spoil a child."
What we've taught today's children is that they get a trophy and a snack simply for showing up. We've taught them that everything should be celebrated with food and a party. And we've taught them that ordinary days -- with no treats or parties -- are somehow lacking.
Almost everyone I know who has gone through a divorce has later admitted to making financial mistakes along the way, from blunders or oversights with short-term impacts to more serious lapses in judgment that derailed their long-term financial health
Humans have forgotten we are animals, and children are like dogs--either you train them or they train you. We could learn more about parenting by watching The Dog Whisperer than by reading parenting books.
Parents are prone to showing their love for their children with a bonanza of presents. At best, they buy a lot of things they can afford but that their children don't really need. At its bleakest? Just read the business section to see the latest figures for personal debt and bankruptcy.
How much is too much to give your children? Often, in assisting one's children, a parent dulls the character, integrity, work ethic, and socialization skills their children need to become responsible adults.
Consider what today's parents face -- the corporate influence, billions of dollars of advertising, and a banking technology that has taught children that money doesn't grow on trees, it comes flying out of ATMs.