The key is that the experience of God is not confined and God can be found in all things. With this framework, ordinary life becomes rich, as it is a place where one can encounter God and the extraordinary can be found.
I know I'm not going to go to a gay wedding in a Catholic church anytime soon, and I know I'm not always going to agree with what the leaders of the Catholic Church have to say, but my time at Loyola affirmed for me that people of faith have more things in common than differences.
Desire is a key part of Christian spirituality because desire is a key way that God's voice is heard in our lives. And our deepest desire, planted within us, is our Advent desire for Christ, the Desire of the Nations.
When you read the complete stories of the lives of these saints and shift your focus from the gruesome details of their martyrdoms and extreme ascetical practices, you might meet people who can teach you about being who you are.