Do you know people who haven't officially joined Facebook but are, in fact, looking on the site everyday? You know who I'm talking about. They snoop around Facebook without actually creating an account themselves? Instead, these folks use a spouse's or friend's username and password. Or they open completely fictitious accounts.
His name was Constantine Kargas. I had never met him or spoken to him. He was a complete stranger to me. And yet he believed we were soul mates, destined to be together. In fact, he was planning our wedding. For years I was terrorized by a stalker whose sick attentions might have derailed my career -- and ended my life.
Coercive control is a strategy some people use to dominate their intimate partners and get their way. It usually includes some combination of isolation, degradation, micromanagement, manipulation, stalking, physical abuse, sexual coercion, threats, and punishment. Not all of these tactics are always present.