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Keep Your Man Away From Our Kid

Terri Linton | Posted 08.12.2015 | Divorce
Terri Linton

Not that anyone asked, but here's my two cents on the Ciara-Future-Russell Wilson baby battle. It is applicable to anyone similarly situated.

Why I'm Terrified To Come Out Trans To My Stepson

Mac Scotty McGregor | Posted 08.10.2015 | Gay Voices
Mac Scotty McGregor

Some who know me and my work would be very surprised that I have been slow to come out to my stepson. Even for a hard core transgender activist and sex educator, confronting the shame that I may be dumping on my kids head in the middle of teenage angst and middle school has been hard to bear.

The Truth About Being A Stepdad

Ravishly | Posted 07.01.2015 | Divorce

In 1986 my husband -- well, he wasn't my husband yet -- won the county spelling bee. I lost. His blue eyes and stellar spelling skills captivated me.

Handling Your Divorce Like an Air-Traffic Controller

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 05.15.2015 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

Going back to our air-traffic controller analogy, it's time to look at the full picture, but take one thing at time. To decrease the risk of mid-air collisions, follow the PEACE acronym: Parenting Plan, Equitable Distribution, Alimony, Child Support and Everything Else!

What It's Like To Go Through Life Having Met Your Dad Only Twice

Megan Kelly Botha | Posted 05.14.2015 | Divorce
Megan Kelly Botha

There is nothing worse than feeling like your parent just gave up on you and forgot about you.

Adopting Us

Thomasina Guidry | Posted 04.26.2015 | Parents
Thomasina Guidry

My husband wants to adopt my daughter. And I want my daughter to be adopted by him. This journey, which we've discussed since before we married more than two years ago, is now coming to fruition.

Don't Call My Stepkids 'Baggage!' Your Trash Just So Happens to Be My Treasure

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 03.23.2015 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

Do I mind that my stepkids are referred to as leftover "baggage?" You bet, I do.

Is Coffee-Shop Divorce Coaching an Alternative to Couch Therapy?

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 01.05.2015 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

Would the comfy lounge chairs and soothing smell of lattes create the kind of inviting atmosphere, where people going through the most challenges conflicts of their lives, could open up and discuss their divorce?

What Do Marathons and Divorce Have in Common?

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 01.03.2015 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

Most who have been through a divorce will tell you that it is a marathon, not a sprint. In order to get to the finish line without collapsing, it is helpful to have a coach guide you from beginning to end.

How To Survive The Holidays As A Blended Family (Without Calling The Cops)

Elaine Ambrose | Posted 12.24.2014 | Divorce
Elaine Ambrose

With coordinated logistics, bribes and chocolate, combined families can learn how to survive without a food fight, bloodletting or lawsuits. Just keep the wine and the children breathing.

Halloween Trick or Treat Tips for Parents With Kids of Divorce

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 12.22.2014 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

You're now embracing your newfound life co-parenting, your children can and have a right to have a great night and create wonderful memories with their family and friends.

9 Dos And Don'ts For Divorce Parents Of 2014 Grads

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 08.02.2014 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

If you and your former spouse are one of those new-age, The Trophy Wife blended families who cut birthday cakes together and who share holidays by com...

Parents and Step-Parents: Where Is the Boundary Line?

Valerie DeLoach | Posted 03.26.2014 | Divorce
Valerie DeLoach

As both a mother whose children have a step-mom and as a step-mom myself, I honestly have no idea where this supposed line is. It changes completely depending on the parent and I am pretty sure I have unknowingly crossed that line as both a mother and a step-mother.

Man Up to Your Children: Do Not Let Them Determine Your Love Life

Sherrie Campbell, PhD | Posted 03.26.2014 | Divorce
Sherrie Campbell, PhD

What happens when a man has met a woman who really makes him happy but his teenage kids hate her for no reason? If a man is not strong in his own self he stands to lose it all in this situation... the respect of his kids and the loss of a love.

I Was a Flexible Parent and Then I Became a Step-Parent

Dr. Kate Roberts | Posted 03.23.2014 | Divorce
Dr. Kate Roberts

Instead of being the flexible, reasonable parent that I am, when we merged families I became the control freak parent I am not. No one liked me, least of all me.

7 Tips for Getting Along Better With Your Stepkids

Ann Blumenthal Jacobs | Posted 03.10.2014 | Divorce
Ann Blumenthal Jacobs

Let the kids have plenty of alone time with their dad. They need to talk to him and no matter how long you've been in the picture, you are still not part of the child-father equation.

An Open Letter to My Step Kids for Thanksgiving

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 01.26.2014 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

I am so very thankful for this weird, dysfunctionally functional, blended family of ours. Because for the last six years, whether you've hated me or loved me, you've always made me feel like a real mom. And for that alone, I am eternally grateful. I love you with all my heart.

Get Some New Glasses or Get a Divorce!

Jennifer Newcomb Marine | Posted 01.25.2014 | Divorce
Jennifer Newcomb Marine

If there was one thing I wish I could make people understand today about American family life it's this: you are blind.

Marrying With Children: The Art of Step-Parenting

Kristen Houghton | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Kristen Houghton

One of the hardest jobs to take on is becoming a step-parent. The job becomes even more difficult if this is your first foray into parenthood. If you've never had the responsibility of being a mom or dad, the prospect of becoming one as a step-parent can be a frightening one.

'Being a Stepmother Is Nothing Like I Thought It Would Be'

Jenifer Fox | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Jenifer Fox

I still feel disingenuous calling them my children. They aren't. Even though they have bedrooms in our house, I sometimes feel like a guest at the dinner table.

'I Really Like My Husband's Ex'

Susan Chatzky | Posted 12.25.2013 | Divorce
Susan Chatzky

I really like my husband's ex, and I feel she really likes me, we aren't exactly friends, but we appreciate and respect one another. We are complete opposites.

The Remarriage Blueprint

Maggie Scarf | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Maggie Scarf

A common way of picturing remarriage is as a freshly cleaned slate, a hope-filled new chance at happiness in a completely different relationship. The remarrying pair typically set out with a sense of optimism, a belief that this marriage will improve the quality not only of their own lives, but the lives of the children involved.

I Play By My Own Stepmothering Rules

Jessica Wernz | Posted 09.25.2013 | Divorce
Jessica Wernz

If there is one thing I've learned since becoming a stepparent, it's that people love to give you advice. Most of the time, these people are not stepparents themselves.

Should Stepparents Ever Be Excluded From Family Events?

Posted 07.17.2013 | Divorce

When you aren't on the best terms with your partner's former spouse, even something as innocent as a kid's birthday party or school graduation can bec...

7 Ways To Deal With A Difficult Stepchild

Jenna Korf | Posted 09.15.2013 | Divorce
Jenna Korf

On a good day, step-parenting a well-behaved, easygoing child can have its challenges, but step-parenting a strong-willed child can seem nearly impossible.