Most relationships work on an economy of gratitude -- recognizing and acknowledging the many ways in which your partner makes your life richer or easier. Demonstrating that sense of gratitude and appreciation every day, in whatever way works for your particular relationship, counts for far more than whether you follow some generic tip handed out by a relationship guru.
For many years, I faithfully drank eight glasses of water a day. I was told it was good for me. I never really knew who first said that, or why. Now I find out that it's just a rough guideline from a 1945 government report; which also pointed out that we get most of the water we need from just eating food. I'm beginning to wonder if the same thing is happening in that turbulent new arena of gender handicapping: that women are rising and men are toast -- their masculine roles as fire starter and bear killer usurped by a new age of female power. Like the water rule, it's been repeated so often, we've come to accept it as fact. But also like the water rule, conventional wisdom about the decline of men ignores an important qualifier.