Mom is a title that women hold closely, and I understand that. Mom is your title and yours alone. I didn't plan on being a stepmom, nor did I pick the title. It is not something that I worked for, yet it is something that I am working on. I'm here to love and care for my stepdaughter as best I can and put her needs and wants first. Being a stepmom is a separate relationship from being mom, and one does not threaten or replace the other.