A young gay writer just published an opinion piece telling people to stop displaying the rainbow flag colors on their profile photos. Why? Because "[g]ay pride is not something you can claim by waving a flag." Because "[t]he rainbow symbol is easy to co-opt, but the experience it represents is not." Because these people "were celebrating a victory they had no part in winning."
When one of my new straight-male friends asked if he could sit in on a QSA meeting, I immediately said yes and took him to a panel on LGBT dating, hoping to show him how cool the queer community is. The discussion was mostly civil, until my fledgling ally worked up the courage to ask one simple question.
Once we learn to see the stories of LGBT people not as "their" story but as human stories, then we can see that we are interconnected and our struggles are universal. After all, all people have to learn to feel comfortable in their own skin. We all have parts of ourselves that we need to come to terms with and accept, whether we're gay or straight.