I was shocked and saddened to hear of the sudden death of music icon, Prince at age 57. In an attempt to deal with my own sense of loss, I turned on the morning news and heard a story that one of his friends felt remorse over her decision to not connect with him this past weekend.
Long ago I adjusted to life without a mother. For most of the last 30 years, the majority of my friends' mothers were living and most still are. Being motherless set me apart, especially in my twenties and thirties. I occasionally have met individuals who also lost their mothers in early adulthood.
We can only speculate about the extent of cardiovascular adversity precipitated by the current financial crisis in Greece, and potentially also in Puerto Rico going forward. Along with a healthy diet and life-style, keeping emotions out of investment decisions might be a wise move.
During this week alone, about 6,250 unsuspecting victims will suffer SCA, most of them (70 percent) at home. Their hearts will unexpectedly stop beating and blood will no longer flow to the brain and throughout the body.
Does our present high-sugar diet do to us what the "garbage dump diet" did to the baboons? Weight gain, pre-diabetes and alarming cholesterol elevations are all results of our diet too. Like the baboons, we humans will certainly respond to dietary insults in a variety of ways.
We need to develop some skillful means both to witness grief, and to live in grief. We need to learn how to support rather than to solve. We need to practice being in there with grief, rather than getting out of it. And we need to hear the distinction between the two.
The crazy train of fear prevents you from being present to what is, and it most definitely keeps you from enjoying what is here in this moment. Following these steps can get you off that train before it takes you too far.
It's true that unexpected death messes with your world in a way few things can. Adding to this list, or creating a whole new one of your own, might give you just the tiniest roadmap inside a wholly disorienting time.
Companion yourself. Care for yourself. Listen. Reach out where it feels good to reach, curl in when that is what you need. Make this season as much of a comfort to you as you can. And when it is not a comfort, know we're here. All these other grieving introverts: We get you. We understand.
Above all, show your love. Show up. Say something. Do something. Be willing to stand beside the gaping hole that has opened in your friend's life, without flinching or turning away. Be love. Love is the thing that lasts.
The Sudden Cardiac Arrest Foundation has launched a petition to the FDA to keep automated external defibrillators (AEDs) readily accessible for victims of sudden unexpected cardiac arrest, rather than increase regulatory hurdles that will hinder their deployment.