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Suffering

Where Does It Hurt?

Rick Hanson, Ph.D. | Posted 05.01.2015 | Healthy Living
Rick Hanson, Ph.D.

How does it feel to open to suffering? You could find that it brings you closer to others, and that there is more kindness coming back your way. You could feel more grounded in the truth of things, particularly in how it actually is for the people around you.

Question Your Fear So Your Children Can Grow

Cathy Cassani Adams | Posted 05.01.2015 | Parents
Cathy Cassani Adams

We suffer when we believe all of the scary stories in our head. Suffering is exaggerated worry about what could happen if we had a difficult experience, not the actual difficult experience.

Pain Is Universal, and So Is Kindness

Lexi Behrndt | Posted 04.30.2015 | Good News
Lexi Behrndt

Kindness is contagious. Kindness dissolves anger, rage, and violence. Even when kindness is beaten down, it finds a way to prevail. All we have to do is look for it.

The Armenian Genocide and Non-acknowledgment

Ervin Staub | Posted 04.27.2015 | World
Ervin Staub

Denial, whatever its form, has harmful consequences, not only for survivors but for the perpetrator group.

When Forgetting Is a Blessing

Marie Marley | Posted 04.21.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

People with Alzheimer's disease can become upset and agitated about things that happen to them. And when you, as the caregiver, witness your loved one's anguish, you may become distressed, too -- sometimes more so than your loved one.

What the Living Can Learn From the Dying

Kristina Cowan | Posted 04.16.2015 | Healthy Living
Kristina Cowan

Beauty exists in the middle of tragedy. A child gets cancer. A friend commits suicide. A parent is plagued by anxiety and depression. Sooner or later, such messes find us. If we wade into them with an exploring mindset, our discoveries can be startling in their beauty and alter our perspective on life.

In the Meantime, Find What Brings You Joy

Z Zoccolante | Posted 04.14.2015 | Healthy Living
Z Zoccolante

Childhood can be terrible, my friend stated. It's important to remind people that it will get better. Between bites of breakfast, the discussion circl...

Passover Is a Prelude to Action

Rabbi Joseph Meszler | Posted 04.01.2015 | Religion
Rabbi Joseph Meszler

Every year on Passover, Jewish people recall that "once we were slaves and now we are free." We dip celery in salt water to remember the tears of the Israelites in captivity.

What Does the Goodness of God Really Mean?

Sarah Thebarge | Posted 03.25.2015 | Religion
Sarah Thebarge

The thing I can't walk away from is that the Bible doesn't just say that God does good things. It says that God IS good. It's not just what he does; it's who he is -- and who he is never changes.

I Don't Know What I Would Have Been Without Auschwitz

Edith Eva Eger | Posted 03.18.2015 | Healthy Living
Edith Eva Eger

On our way to Auschwitz my mother said something I never forgot, she said: 'We don't know where we're going. We don't know what's going to happen. Just remember, no one can take away from you what you put here in your own mind.' My mother had the biggest impact on me.

One Final Word on and by C. S. Lewis on Suffering

Greg Cootsona | Posted 03.05.2015 | Religion
Greg Cootsona

I conclude this series with the final purpose for suffering as presented by this Oxford-trained specialist in ancient and medieval literature and philosophy: Suffering can lead us to hope in God's fulfillment.

C. S. Lewis: A Second Key Purpose for Suffering

Greg Cootsona | Posted 04.19.2015 | Religion
Greg Cootsona

We all know that solving the problem of pain and suffering is, among other things, intellectually excruciating.

Walking the Via Dolorosa: Young People in Solidarity--Until the End

Jordan Denari | Posted 04.14.2015 | Religion
Jordan Denari

Accompanying others selflessly is not the result of a state of enlightenment, nor is it a constant, deep emotion. It is a decision we make, a path we undertake consciously and with perseverance.

C. S. Lewis on the Purposes for Suffering

Greg Cootsona | Posted 04.12.2015 | Religion
Greg Cootsona

As I prepare to give a talk at Columbia University in the upcoming weeks on the subject of Lewis and the Purposes of Suffering, it seemed wise to return to the topic and revise it in light of what new comes to mind.

When You Know Your 'Good Days' Are Numbered

Karen Zainal | Posted 04.04.2015 | Healthy Living
Karen Zainal

I believe there are few things more important to how we live our lives than contemplating the temporality, and fragility, of life on this side of eternity. Accepting the vanity of our present pursuits is the beginning of discovering our true purpose, and the true meaning of our lives.

The Positivity of Givers and Takers

Catherine Nagle | Posted 04.01.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Catherine Nagle

It seems that we are both the givers and the takers; it's only until we tip the scales of justice that we truly see who is the true giver of us all...

Does God Let Us Suffer?

Reverend Dr. Malcolm Clemens Young | Posted 03.31.2015 | Religion
Reverend Dr. Malcolm Clemens Young

Choosing to become part of Christ's story involves helping the world to overcome loneliness, suffering and hatred. Christians can easily seem hypocritical because this is such a lofty aim.

The Lesson of the Tree

Bill Halamandaris | Posted 03.29.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Bill Halamandaris

Like the tree, we are all at times challenged and pushed to the limits of our existence. If we are to survive and grow, we must reach deep and draw on the best part of ourselves. Those who cannot find a purpose in their pain are diminished by it. Those who do are enlarged and strengthened by the process.

How Did You Get to Be the Way You Are?

Judith Johnson | Posted 03.16.2015 | Healthy Living
Judith Johnson

Remember that your beliefs are powerful self-fulfilling prophecies. The bottom line of this is that if you change your beliefs, you will change your experiences. You are not a victim unless you choose to be. Health and well-being in adulthood is not achieved through the accumulation of external successes, but rather through cleaning out your internal emotional closets.

What God's Role in Tragedy Really Is

Stan Duncan | Posted 03.07.2015 | Religion
Stan Duncan

God's fundamental act in the universe is salvation, making the creation one, more whole, more ''good,'' and when the creation invariably fails or falls, God is in the midst of the hurt, working for some sort of reconciliation even in the brokenness.

How Love Lifts Us Over the Hurdles of Life

Alexia Parks | Posted 03.05.2015 | Healthy Living
Alexia Parks

These "teachable" moments that some might view as setbacks are also one way that life reminds us to slow down and take a deeper breath, to pace ourselves. Renewed, we stand up once again. Once again, we speak up about things that matter most in life to us.

Translating Tattoos: Lessons From the ER

Edwin Leap, MD | Posted 03.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Edwin Leap, MD

It's easy to condemn what we don't understand or would never do ourselves. But maybe we should pause to consider the messages that tattoos are sending. In the process, we might love and understand our neighbors just a little better than before.

Your Truest Friend Resides Inside Your Own Heart

Nancy Colier | Posted 03.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

As we age, it seems that fighting with friends becomes less necessary or even possible. There are fewer matters worth fighting about and even fewer wo...

Moving Beyond Shame

Kaly McKenna | Posted 02.02.2015 | Women
Kaly McKenna

While the reasons for the shame are as diverse as the millions of women who suffer in this world, here are three reasons highlighting why it is so difficult for women to move beyond the shame.

This Simple Exercise Will Pull You Out Of A Sadness Rut

OWN | Posted 12.02.2014 | OWN

Despite facing a variety of painful obstacles and difficulties in life, people are often hesitant to describe their experiences as "suffering." It's t...