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Survivors Guilt

What Does A Responder Do When She No Longer Wears The Blue?

Lillie Leonardi | Posted 06.23.2016 | Impact
Lillie Leonardi

"This world of ours, must avoid becoming a community of dreadful fear and hate, and be, instead, a proud confederation of mutual trust and respect." ~...

The Survivor's Guilt Most Trauma Surgeons Can't Escape

Jamie Jones Coleman | Posted 03.25.2017 | Healthy Living
Jamie Jones Coleman

We all take you, our patients and communities, home with us at night. But please also know that our lives are never the same either. Every patient encounter alters us -- sometimes subtly, and sometimes drastically. We are changed, and we never forget.

'The Drifter,' A Conversation with Nicholas Petrie

Mark Rubinstein | Posted 01.14.2017 | Home
Mark Rubinstein

Nicholas Petrie received his MFA in fiction from the University of Washington. While an undergraduate and the University of Michigan, he won a Hopwood Award for short fiction. His story, "At the Laundromat," won the 2006 Short Story Contest in the Seattle Review. The Drifter is his debut novel.

This Is a Letter to Lila, Who Would Have Turned 20 if She Hadn't Committed Suicide

Claire Dinh | Posted 02.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Claire Dinh

Lila, They say that time heals when grieving the loss of a loved one. But it's been 2.5 years since you killed yourself, and I'm not so sure I'm d...

Addiction: Survivor's Guilt and Heroic Parents

Dean Dauphinais | Posted 10.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Dean Dauphinais

I cannot even imagine what losing a child to drugs would be like. Lord knows I've thought about it a lot. For a while, I was terrified that it might happen to me. And I'd be lying if I said it's not something I still think about from time to time when I allow my mind to wander out of the moment.

When Survivor's Guilt Takes Over

Virginia Sullivan | Posted 09.09.2014 | Divorce
Virginia Sullivan

It takes courage to see people you love fail. Every day I was looking in the mirror and telling myself to be brave about being a single Mom. And now I had another thing I had to be brave about every day.

My Cousin: The 'U-Boat' Who Survived Beneath Nazi Horrors

Warren J. Blumenfeld | Posted 03.22.2014 | Religion
Warren J. Blumenfeld

"What do you call someone who can speak three languages?" I said I didn't know. "Trilingual," he quipped. "What do you call someone who can speak two ...

The Contradictions of Cancer

Elise Frame | Posted 11.17.2013 | Healthy Living
Elise Frame

After spending the better part of a year in chemotherapy infusion bays and hospital beds, I finally returned to college to pick up where I left off. But as I've noticed since being back, it isn't quite as simple as that. Cancer's pesky paradoxes seem to follow me around everywhere I turn.

I Don't Know How to Be Anything But a Patient

Kate Sievers | Posted 10.14.2013 | Healthy Living
Kate Sievers

I was the patient. I was the sick one. I was the one who could've died. I was the one who had the chemo, the surgery, the radiation -- and I was okay with that. I don't know how to be anything else.

The Ultimate Goal of Survival

Erin Havel | Posted 10.08.2013 | Healthy Living
Erin Havel

Sometimes I choose to live in an alternate reality. Although I know not everyone survives their illnesses, I choose to believe they will. It's not denial, it's hope.

Next Steps for Sandy Hook: Surviving Guilt

Vivian Diller, Ph.D. | Posted 02.18.2013 | Healthy Living
Vivian Diller, Ph.D.

Survivors of tragedies struggle in ways that most people find hard to understand. The emotions are complex and confusing. The feelings depend upon on the psychological makeup of the individual involved and vary depending on the nature of the traumatic event.

Superstorm Sandy, Survivor's Guilt and a Psychic 3-Year-Old

Alysia Reiner | Posted 01.06.2013 | Parents
Alysia Reiner

Even unscathed by the tragedy -- sleeping warm and tight with water and electricity -- you feel the surreal dichotomy of the deep gratitude that you are OK and the staggering pain for all those who have lost something.