Nobody wants to talk to their kids about sex. Nobody wants to think about their kids having sex--the same way nobody likes to think about their parents having sex. As biologically unlikely as it might be, we'd prefer to think that ours is the only generation that has ever or will ever have sex.
Arguably, the most important thing to remember is what has long-term implications. Trust is a fragile commodity and is easily damaged. Always assume that they will "fact check" you in some way. It may not be right away, but inevitably, the topic -- whatever it is -- will come up at some point with their siblings, cousins, friends or teachers.
"If you don't like going to school, then stop going, and start getting a life."
That's why I've become so fascinated by the power that stories, not speeches, can bring to the workplace. The Harvard psychologist Howard Gardner said, "Every great leader is a great storyteller," and I've come to realize how true this is.
I propose the following methods which use something weightless (and underutilized!) which you carry around all the time: your imagination. These mental tricks have been working for me for some time, and perhaps they will work for you, too.
All images are not created equal and to image creatively and with passion can be a thing of beauty. Veasey uses ionizing radiation and his expertise to create art. In healthcare, the radiology technologist and radiologist use ionizing radiation and their expertise and training to safely create the image that is the patients' personal 'work of art", i.e. the patient radiographic image.
Veasey has taken a very high-tech field, in which he is an expert, radiography, and turned it into an artform in its own right. What makes it so compelling is that through the use of what was designed as a 'functional technology', he alters the way that we see the world.
My mother Elaine and a few other people took an x-ray of my life. They looked beyond the obvious, that I was poorly educated, hardly loved and had lived a hard knock life. For some reason they saw potential where I only saw failure.
I've come to believe that failure is the currency used to purchase two of the most sought after human virtues. Here's my talk. Let me know if you agree.
Through the years, I've come to realize that fear is often a normal part of the parenting experience. If we don't learn to acknowledge and address it, our tendency to overprotect can actually hinder (and sometimes cripple) our children's development.
Giving in to our own fears and taking over difficult or dangerous tasks sends them the message that they're incapable of accomplishing these things on their own. Children pick up on these messages when they're very young.
I like to help Alex out sometimes -- whisper sweet somethings into his ear. He needs me to puff up his creativity, and balance his sanity. We can't have him going off the deep end, can we?
In any given day, I can find a thousand reasons to say, "Don't do that," from telling my child to stop playing with the jam packets in a restaurant to telling my husband not to use the last piece of toilet paper without replacing the roll. But I don't. I pick my battles. Because to dole out "No's" like playing cards can't be good for the soul.