We choose. We decide. We define who we are and what we are capable of. And when we define ourselves -- it's when we really shine.
In this incredibly moving talk, waitress-turned-equal-rights-advocate Ash Beckham shares a story about how a little girl's innocence stopped her in her tracks. See what this profound encounter reveals about finding the courage to be yourself and to say the things you never thought you could say.
Eventually I worked up enough courage to come out to my older brother Chuck, who lived seven hundred miles away. I sat on the floor of my basement apartment bedroom and dialed his number, each time hanging up before the first ring. On the fourth try I let the call complete.
I agree that as a therapist, there are good reasons for some separation. But do we need to take it as far as we have, and continue to? Can we be more authentic, as Ash Beckham encourages us to be? Can't health care providers and therapists be more themselves?
It's amazing what a rigged game of Monopoly can reveal. Psychologist Paul Piff shares research showing that people who feel wealthy tend to behave badly. Why is that? And what does it mean for America?
Self-reflection may be a simple exercise, but it is an important one: it reminds us of our YES--that we want to be good people. By recognizing the pervasive effects money can have, we can be more mindful of our actions and make time to think about time.
There is a new model of business and business student afoot: The student who enters my office with a deep passion to do two things. Make money and do good. Business schools are "rebranding" themselves to welcome this new identity. It's being called "social impact." The identity of the student, who has realized that mindless self-investment into the false idol of material things for their sake is an empty void and a fast track to an empty soul, is changing.
Still, Americans use hundreds of gallons of water every day without thinking. (Especially in drought-stricken California.) I think that if we can learn to love our water, it just might save our lives. So I decided to give a talk about it.
Many students are pleasantly surprised by the way that these requirements can stimulate creativity and ideas. I give one assignment called "Routine", in which students are asked to create a drawing based on one of their routines. Hopelessly addicted to chocolate pudding, one student depicted an exaggerated tower of empty pudding cups while another student visually represented flashbacks of his mother's death from cancer.
What I came to learn was that the limits I set were of my own making. In expanding my consciousness, I learned that the limitation had become the ultimate liberation. With the added support of loved ones and a positive outlook, I was able to flip the negative situation in my favor.
Giving yourself permission to create crap may not be comfortable, but creating isn't always comfortable! In fact, the most important thing that any would-be creator can do is learn to get comfortable with discomfort.
These days, we can consume our art in conditions of perfection: CD's with no crackle or static, photographs with no scratches. But I think we all find something intriguing in the idea of the disturbance. We love the Easter egg in the video game, the intentional flaw of a Navajo rug or a quilt. More and more of us have tired of the digital clarity of a CD, and film is still being produced for those who want the imperfections of a negative in the darkroom.