"Some parents get sad and angry when their kids are gay. They have a really hard time with it." "Yeah," he said, "but why is it hard?" I struggled. "Not all mommies love their babies the way I love you."
We are rightly frustrated by what happened with Josh Duggar. But we should direct that collective frustration and anger towards building new and better ways to rehabilitate children who commit crimes and to help their victims.
For Children's Advocacy Centers, many of our most heart-wrenching cases involve families in which sibling abuse has occurred. Parents are distraught about the victimization of one child, while terribly worried about the legal consequences to another child.
Jim Bob claims that, "This wasn't rape or anything like that. This was touching over the clothes." This perception that touching is somehow less traumatic than penetration is not only false, it is incredibly damaging to victims, and helps perpetuate a culture of victim-blaming.
We're quick to love like Jesus when the people who need that love are already one of us, but when the people who need loving are people we don't like, people we're afraid of, or people whose lives we "don't agree with," we quickly and unapologetically exchange that love for wrath.
If you're tired of defending Christianity every time another self-professed Christian makes the news for doing something evil, and yet you also find yourself denouncing Islam as an inherently evil religion based on what you see on TV and what little you've read of the Quran, I urge you to stop.
Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar did not guide their son to be one of those people. They likely were protecting him from going to jail. Or perhaps their own reputation. I don't know. But it's at the risk of giving the victims the message, "your pain is insignificant."
If we insist on continuing to equate stone-casting to simple, yet critical accountability, particularly when children are abused and neither their abusers nor those over them are held accountable, then I have just one question. Where's my pile of stones?