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I'm A Man, A Father And A Survivor Of Sexual Abuse

The Good Men Project | Posted 10.08.2015 | Healthy Living
The Good Men Project

In public, I wore a mask. I was a persona, a costume. I became the person I thought everyone would like to see or be around, and not the hideously broken and soiled thing I saw in the mirror.

How Masculinity Prevents Men From Talking About Abuse

The Good Men Project | Posted 09.26.2015 | Healthy Living
The Good Men Project

Though one in six men has had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences, men rarely talk about sexual abuse, instead keeping it a secret due to embarrassment, shame, and ideas about what their victimization means about manhood.

How Childhood Trauma Can Wreck a Man's Relationship... and What You Can Do to Heal

The Good Men Project | Posted 09.25.2015 | Healthy Living
The Good Men Project

I learned that the secret for developing a loving relationship that can last a lifetime was understanding the ways that childhood trauma impacts our lives.

The Boy With Golden Hands: An Open Letter to Zion Harvey

Erin M. Kelly | Posted 09.23.2015 | Impact
Erin M. Kelly

I have cerebral palsy, a condition that has left me in a wheelchair since birth. I'm blessed to have both of my legs, but I'm unable to walk or use them properly, if at all. My hands have coincidentally compensated for that, as I'm now a full-time writer at the age of 30.

The Hardest Part Of Being A Divorced Dad

The Good Men Project | Posted 09.22.2015 | Divorce
The Good Men Project

There is a lot I can't do. We can't go back. We can't all live in the same house. I can't fill the void she has missing her mom when she's at my house, no one can. But still, there is a lot I can do.

How My Mentally-Ill Best Friend Made Me A Better Social Worker

The Good Men Project | Posted 09.21.2015 | Healthy Living
The Good Men Project

Ryan and I never once talked about treatment. He never even admitted to me that he had a mental illness. But he taught me more about mental health and wellness than most degreed people I know.

When Men Are the 'Beautiful Disasters' in Relationships

The Good Men Project | Posted 09.16.2015 | Healthy Living
The Good Men Project

Nevertheless, if someone were to seriously think of me as something as ambiguous as a beautiful disaster -- at least we'd be able to agree that, as the original article suggests, such a union might "ruin" at least one of our lives.

Happiness Advice From an Artist Living With Schizophrenia

The Good Men Project | Posted 09.15.2015 | Healthy Living
The Good Men Project

Obviously bright, Rich has a vast breadth of creativity which he describes as "making life bearable" by giving him an outlet to express himself. He also speculated that his creativity is in spite of (rather than because of) his schizophrenia.

Why Traditional Manhood Is Killing Us

The Good Men Project | Posted 09.15.2015 | Healthy Living
The Good Men Project

As men, we must grant ourselves permission to be emotionally vibrant human beings; we must liberate ourselves to live in a much wider range of ways. But when I talk about this liberation of men, self-described traditionalists raise objections.

Do I Say 'I Love You' Too Much for a Guy?

The Good Men Project | Posted 09.14.2015 | Healthy Living
The Good Men Project

I've begun wondering if I say I love you too much for a guy. When I write a closing salutation to emails, it's sitting right there: the blinking cursor, waiting for me. Do I enter xo? xx? Love? Warmly? My best?

The Healing Power Of Compassion In Men's Lives

The Good Men Project | Posted 09.13.2015 | Healthy Living
The Good Men Project

Self-compassion is being aware of your own suffering with an interior response that is supportive and kind rather than harsh (I made a bad mistake but I'm a good man and I can find a way to get through it). Compassion is everywhere. Men perform countless acts of compassion on individual and grand scales.

New Fathers Suffer From Postpartum Depression, Too

The Good Men Project | Posted 09.12.2015 | Healthy Living
The Good Men Project

Paternal postnatal depression research suggests men may develop symptoms more gradually over the course of a child's first year, while typically, but not always, women see symptoms earlier.

Ignoring Suicide Doesn't Make It Go Away

The Good Men Project | Posted 09.11.2015 | Healthy Living
The Good Men Project

Sometimes I want to write about why black people have become more suicidal over the last 30 years. But then I look at the world and feel like Roy Scheider in Jaws: I'm gonna need a bigger boat.

3 Ways Modern Technology Increases Veterans' Likelihood of PTSD

The Good Men Project | Posted 09.09.2015 | Healthy Living
The Good Men Project

Technology has also changed the experience of war and what it means to be a soldier in a combat zone. These changes have both benefits and costs, of course. Here are three ways technology has helped increase the number of folks who experience PTSD.

Reward to Fast-Forward: One Man's Courage to Explore Past Abuse

The Good Men Project | Posted 08.29.2015 | Healthy Living
The Good Men Project

Words cannot describe what it feels like to watch thousands of strangers stand up and say, "You are beautiful and I not only believe in you, I want to do anything I can to help you. Thank you for being my voice!" Thousands of survivors have shared their stories with me.

New York Writer Uses Storytelling To Change Perspectives On Divorce

Nadine Cheung | Posted 08.31.2015 | Divorce

Aol's BeOn group creates custom editorial content that is sponsored by marketing partners. The sponsoring partners do not exert editorial influence ov...

From One Blue to Another: The Chris Judd I Know

The Good Men Project | Posted 06.14.2015 | Sports
The Good Men Project

Football -- after all the layers of fireworks, hovercrafts, talkback radio shows, betting scandals, fans, opinions and finances are stripped away -- is just a game. From there on, his aura evaporated and the Chris Judd I know is -- yes, a good footballer, but more -- a good person.

Richie Benaud: Marvelous Life, That

The Good Men Project | Posted 06.27.2015 | Sports
The Good Men Project

Throughout his 50 years on television, following an impressive career as a player, Benaud's urbane and measured delivery, along with his perfectly coiffed silver hair and tan that contrasted perfectly with a signature off-white blazer, inspired much mirth and impersonation.

A Husband Speaks: How I'm Saving My Marriage

The Good Men Project | Posted 04.23.2015 | Weddings
The Good Men Project

I've spent some time at work looking around at the guys I work with who are going through divorces. I've listened to their stories and I don't want their story to become mine.

5 Ways To Improve Your Odds Of Living Happily Ever After

The Good Men Project | Posted 04.01.2015 | Weddings
The Good Men Project

If you want a better shot at a marriage that lasts a lifetime, taking these actions before the big day will help you avoid becoming just another statistic and make it to the happily ever after.

Why I Really Want a Pete Carroll Jersey

The Good Men Project | Posted 03.28.2015 | Sports
The Good Men Project

I live in Seattle. And it's hard to live here and not feel "it." Mind you, I'm stubborn as hell, I held out a long time, but... they wore me down. And by "they," I mean Pete Carroll.

Boston Book Festival Unbound: Divorce and Marriage

Sally Fay | Posted 09.10.2014 | Divorce
Sally Fay

Sally Fay, Author and Moderator, for Boston Book Festival 2013 Panel on Divorce and Marriage, in front of the Boston Public Library (America's first...

The Crucial Activity More Dads Should Do With Their Kids

The Huffington Post | Emma Mustich | Posted 06.04.2014 | Parents

This Father's Day, some parents are putting the focus on an important gift dads can give to their kids, rather than the other way around. Jordan Ll...

Weakness Isn't an Option

Brandon L. Greene | Posted 06.16.2014 | Black Voices
Brandon L. Greene

It seems that oftentimes, when we speak about notions of manhood, we view the topic with a limited scope. We talk about the "man box," with references...

My 7-Year-Old Daughter Tried To 'Catfish' Me

Tom M. Burns | Posted 05.24.2014 | Parents
Tom M. Burns

I know it's innocent, but, at the very least, this little prank -- this old-school attempt to "catfish" her old man -- reminds me that my daughter is getting older every day.