A coherent narrative helps us to integrate new information with what we already know, so that we can heal and move on. The only way I can formulate a coherent narrative about this tragedy is if all of us, collectively, use this event as a catalyst for change.
Like it or not, we are all asked to be in relationship with loss and grief. Over the years, I have discovered that grief doesn't go away but teaches us how to discover our strength and resilience by staying with deep and inexplicable feelings over long periods of time.
he depth of emotions can be so overwhelming that I found I often had tried to avoid the grief that has been building within my mind, body, and soul. I also instinctively knew that I needed to feel the pain to release it.
From the moment my dad died, from the moment I found out there was the possibility of his dying, there were many surprises. Almost 10 years later now, I am still startled by how easily grief can sneak under my skin.