How do you celebrate the holidays in the wake of a national tragedy? How do you find life in the midst of carnage too horrible to imagine? Here's what you need to know, from the perspective of a parent who has lost their child from a catastrophic act of violence.
This year, let's consider together what can improve our odds of celebrating more and being disappointed less. Let's get intentional in this year's holiday season to create what restores, regenerates, and uplifts.
Causes of vacancy come in endless iterations and are particularly poignant during the holidays. You may be left staring death in the face. Or, perhaps your loss involves a loved one that lives far away and finances are insufficient to bring them to your door.
We must not stay attached to outcome. When the time comes, after putting our heart and soul into relationship with creation, we must let it go, say goodbye. Otherwise, there can be no space for what wants to happen creatively to come forward, be born into the world.
There's nothing like true stories of those who refuse to be defeated, despite the odds, to cure what ails you. Such stories transfix, restoring hope in transformation. This turn of events is available to every one of us willing to put in the sweat equity.
Self-compassion begins with self-election. Only you can choose to "care enough to send the very best" back to the one in the mirror. To do otherwise is to say to Creation, "No, thank you. Unlike the rest of creation, I am an error."
As we progress through Autumn's Season of Plenty, let us do so more consciously than ever before, rediscovering fall as one of four portals to a healthier, more vibrantly loving relationship with life.
"You a writer, or something?" he asks, noticing my gymnastic struggle with pen and paper. His inquiry reminds me of the mosquito hovering around your ear on a hot July evening, and you, without a fly swatter. Good thing, though. I would have missed the fireworks.
Do we have the intestinal fortitude to live this marvelous nature out today, that part of us that lives beyond self-criticism, judgment, comparison and down-right making ourselves wrong for what we didn't achieve?