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The Moment I Stopped Being Perfect

How Chronic Illness Prepared Me For Motherhood

Sarah Bunton | Posted 06.30.2015 | Healthy Living
Sarah Bunton

Just like I had learned the importance of endurance, I found the art of compensation to be quite valuable, too. Compensating, to the average person, means to counter-balance something. To a person with a connective tissue disorder, it means constantly shifting your weight or changing your stance in order to prevent or manage a dislocated joint.

8 Things I Would Tell My Teenage Self If I Had A Time Machine

Cindy Cook DeRuyter | Posted 06.14.2015 | Healthy Living
Cindy Cook DeRuyter

I'd tell my younger self all of this and more, until I was blue in the face. But the sad reality is that at 15, I probably wouldn't have listened to 41-year-old me any more than I listened to my parents; I would have likely simply politely nodded before uncapping the hairspray, my mind already thinking about hanging out with my friends on the weekend.

8 Ways To Break Up With Perfection

Silvana Perelli | Posted 01.25.2015 | Healthy Living
Silvana Perelli

Authenticity is the new perfection. If you want to strive for something, strive for that. Then you know you'll be in alignment with who you want to be and how you want to show up in the world.

The Importance of Being Present

Ian Colvin | Posted 01.03.2015 | Gay Voices
Ian Colvin

Whether it's being busted by my son for being on my BlackBerry, or having to run out of the house early in the morning to get to the office, missing my good-morning hugs from the kids, there are always going to be times I feel guilty for not being present.

Mamma, Am I Beautiful?

Alyson Herzig | Posted 12.30.2014 | Women
Alyson Herzig

"Mom, have you ever felt not beautiful?" A million thoughts cross my mind in the time I take to turn my chair to face her. What's the appropriate answer to this? Why is she asking me this? Did someone tell her she is not beautiful?

Plate Spinning

Amy Hunter | Posted 12.28.2014 | Women
Amy Hunter

Metaphorically this whole world of motherhood is a gigantic plate spinning act... and my performance will not get me a spot on Ed Sullivan.

The Comparer's Prison

Rena DeLevie | Posted 12.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Rena DeLevie

I make the same typo every time I type one specific word: Comaprison. This is actually Comparison. But aren't they the very same thing?

Haunted by Perfection

Gary van Warmerdam | Posted 12.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Gary van Warmerdam

What is peculiar about an Image of Perfection is that it is nothing but a concept. From one point of view, it can be a vision that can inspire us to excel and accomplish great things. From a darker point of view, that same concept can be used as a club by the ego to emotionally beat us down into fear, doubt and self-sabotaging behavior.

8 Life Lessons From My Grandma

Kathryn Leehane | Posted 12.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Kathryn Leehane

Last week, my grandma gave me some delicious beans she had cooked up (she makes the best beans in the world, I kid you not). I placed them lovingly in an insulated bag and carefully positioned them in my car so they wouldn't spill or be otherwise disturbed on my way home.

Vacuuming With Pearls

Megan McDonough | Posted 12.09.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan McDonough

Illusions of what a holiday should look like, how clean our house should be, the clothes our children should wear, the schools they should attend, the raise we should get at work, and how we think our boss should treat us all cause strife. Stress arises when our thoughts fight what is.

Letting Go Of 'Perfect' For A Puppy

Jessie Rosen | Posted 12.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Jessie Rosen

I have spent the past three years saying NO to my boyfriend, then fiancé and now husband's "Can we please get a dog?" I said it so many times that I just stopped saying it and created a look that communicated the same message. It was not a pleasant look.

Are You Living Your Dream... Or Somebody Else's?

Dawn Gluskin | Posted 12.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Dawn Gluskin

What I've learned is this: Life is a series of piling on layers. Posturing. We try so hard to be that person others want us to be.

Your Reflection Is Perfection

Nicole Glassman | Posted 11.25.2014 | Women
Nicole Glassman

I remember the day like it was yesterday. I stood at the foot of their bed when my dad interrupted me, "Are you getting a little chunky there?" He pointed to my stomach. I looked down sheepishly and said, "No, I am just standing funny." I wondered what he meant. I was only eight years old.

Boyhood's Answer To The Existential Confusion Of The Millennial Generation

Jock Gilchrist | Posted 11.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Jock Gilchrist

As so many unremarkable events pass by -- a graduation, family dinner, departure for college -- the subtext of the events comes to the foreground. We skip from day to day, event to event -- what is the point of it all?

Sometimes Your Happiness Depends On Walking Away

Kristen Houghton | Posted 11.18.2014 | Healthy Living
Kristen Houghton

Too often we focus so much on a door that has closed abruptly and unexpectedly in our faces that we don't realize that the world is full of other doors that are open to us. You won't find your happiness demanding that a certain closed and locked door reopen; all you will do is miss seeing alternate avenues of opportunities that are available to you.

Find Your 'Why' And Work It Out

Traci Bild | Posted 11.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Traci Bild

Don't be a memory! Choose to be decisive, selfish and add exercise and all its amazing benefits to your daily to do list. Feel good, look good, set an example for your children that fitness isn't something you do when you have the time, but something you make the time to do because it matters.

A Happiness Experiment: The Good, The Bad And The Miserable?

Janice Taylor | Posted 11.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Janice Taylor

I don't know about you (although I could make a guess), but I have super powers -- an innate ability, a real knack for the "miserable." I have the power to be in a bliss state, and in a New York minute, I can and do turn supreme happiness on its ear.

7 Truths Women Are Afraid To Share

Traci Bild | Posted 11.10.2014 | Women
Traci Bild

Truth be told, we're exhausted. While it's easy to discuss how busy we are at work, the vacations taken over the summer, and which sports the kids are participating in this fall, it's not easy to talk about the stress, anxiety and guilt that surrounds our everyday existence as women.

Seeing Myself From The Other Side Of The Fence

Mohini Kundu | Posted 11.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Mohini Kundu

"This might sound weird, but I'm so proud of you and everything you're doing," he said. And in that moment, when I let myself stop feeling unkempt and behind schedule and not successful enough and sleep deprived and mediocre -- I was pretty proud of me, too.

Realizing 'The One' Isn't

Rachel Bass | Posted 11.05.2014 | Women
Rachel Bass

Life can be the journey you want it to be, and it's ok to realize that the path you believed was your destiny isn't. In the moment, it's hard to comprehend, but when we work on ourselves, all we can do is put our faith in fate and believe that one day, "the one" is.

The Top Of The Ferris Wheel

Marie Zullo | Posted 11.03.2014 | Parents
Marie Zullo

There I stood at the foot of the Ferris wheel trying to decide what to do. The idea of leaving Aaron alone, where I could see him but not reach him if he needed me, frightened me more than was probably healthy.

How Going After Our Dreams And Overcoming Our Fears Helped Us Become A Family Of Four

Ian Colvin | Posted 10.29.2014 | Gay Voices
Ian Colvin

When our first adoption fell through, someone told me, "Ian, you're meant to have the children you're meant to have. Your children are out there, you just don't know them yet."

MISSING: One Bunny Boy

Miranda Gargasz | Posted 10.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Miranda Gargasz

All those well-meaning mothers with all their time-tested advice neglected to let me in on the pain that is mothering. How many mothers told me when I was pregnant that one day I'll turn around and a half-formed man will be living in my house and my precious baby will be missing? How many mothers told me that the day will come when I can't coax him into bunny ears for a picture even if I promised him unlimited video game time? How many mothers told me how much my heart will hurt when I realize my baby simply isn't a baby anymore?

The Differences Between The First And Second Child

Sarah Cottrell | Posted 10.25.2014 | Parents
Sarah Cottrell

In many predictable ways having a second child has changed my mothering -- for example, increasing my forgetfulness while simultaneously decreasing my reservoir of patience. My second child has just reached his first birthday and with that celebratory occasion came a mountain of realizations for me about the differences between baby number one and baby number two.

The Day My Son Gave Up On Me

Lauren Cormier | Posted 10.22.2014 | Parents
Lauren Cormier

Ever since our two sons began sharing a room, their bedtime routine has been the same. Baths, PJs, teeth, stories, cuddles. And every night as I leave their room, Eli always says, "Remember to come up, cuddle, and bring water!" I head down the stairs with a quick, "Okay!" knowing full well that the likelihood of following through on that promise is next to nothing.