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The Psychology of Sexual Fantasy: Part 2

Cari Shane | Posted 07.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Cari Shane

One of the natural consequences of having the ability to imagine is also having the skills to use our imaginations to conjure up sexual fantasies. But, just because we can think them up, doesn't mean we're comfortable talking about them, or further still, acting them out.

The Psychology of Sexual Fantasy: Part 1

Cari Shane | Posted 07.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Cari Shane

Sexual fantasies are a natural byproduct of the human imagination. Yet, they make the majority of us uncomfortable enough that our fantasies about sex and sexual activities remain inside our heads.

5 Rules to Creating a Romantic Valentine's Day

Chrisanna Northrup | Posted 04.14.2014 | Weddings
Chrisanna Northrup

We think there are millions of couples all over the United States secretly and not so secretly craving more romance, and while we can't order a quick long-term fix, we can offer a short-term one: Take advantage of Valentine's Day!

The Perfect Gift

Chrisanna Northrup | Posted 02.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Chrisanna Northrup

But that old saying about it's the thought that counts is not really a superficial sentiment. Gifts need to be a genuine expression of love and well thought out. They need to come from the heart, not out of a sense of obligation or duty.

He Never Kisses Me Anymore

Chrisanna Northrup | Posted 01.25.2014 | Divorce
Chrisanna Northrup

Kissing passionately takes two and if both people in the relationship stop initiating the passionate kiss, it eventually goes away. When it's gone, it's sometimes hard to bring back.

50 Shades of Grey: Fantasies Transforming Into a Couple's Reality

Chrisanna Northrup | Posted 01.23.2014 | Books
Chrisanna Northrup

We asked, "Did reading the book make you more interested in kinkier sex?" The answer was dramatically in favor of an edgier sex life! Sixty-seven percent of women and 59 percent of men said yes, bring on the kinkier sex!

Are Gay Couples the Same As Straight Couples?

Chrisanna Northrup | Posted 08.03.2013 | Healthy Living
Chrisanna Northrup

Other than that gay and lesbian partners are of the same sex -- and that among male couples in particular there are a few variations in monogamy -- same-sex relationships looked pretty much like the opposite-sex version.

The Lie 43% Of Women Tell Their Partners In Bed

Posted 02.09.2013 | Divorce

The Normal Bar data show us that even in good relationships, trust is shaky. Having complete and total confidence in a partner seems to be a struggle for most of us.

Proof Your Partner Is Fantasizing About Someone Else

Posted 01.31.2013 | Divorce

Excerpted from the book THE NORMAL BAR. Copyright © 2013 by Chrisanna Northrup, Pepper Schwartz, and James Witte. Published by Harmony, an Imprint of...

Why Do People Cheat? Readers Weigh In

Posted 01.24.2013 | Divorce

Why do people cheat? Earlier this week, we published findings from the The Normal Bar, an extensive survey of the romantic relationships of more t...

Why People Cheat: New Survey Reveals Causes Of Infidelity

Posted 01.31.2013 | Divorce

Excerpted from the book THE NORMAL BAR. Copyright © 2013 by Chrisanna Northrup, Pepper Schwartz, and James Witte. Published by Harmony, an Imprint of...

What's Normal When It Comes To Relationships?

Chrisanna Northrup | Posted 06.29.2011 | Home
Chrisanna Northrup

"The Normal Bar" will ask men and women about their everyday relationship habits and values so that we can tell you what's "normal" in today's relationships.

Ashley Reich

Are You 'Normal'? Survey Charts Beliefs, Behavior About Trust, Lies, Sex, Splits Worldwide

HuffingtonPost.com | Ashley Reich | Posted 06.29.2011 | Divorce

It’s an age-old question, pondered by both moody adolescents and adults in the throes of midlife crises: Am I normal? Working mother Chrisanna N...