So many quarrels are out of control quickly escalating to make things worse. Whatever the subject matter is, it's soon forgotten and all kinds of stuff are dredged up to squabble over. But people need to speak about what upsets them so they can find solutions. How do they do it in a way that brings resolution in a healthy way?
You know what it's like to have something demanded of you, right? If anything, it puts you on the defensive and makes you not want to do something. So imagine how your partner feels when you tell them to clean the house or take the dog for a walk. Who wants to do something nice for someone when they are forced to do it?