When you work in a field like pediatric oncology you learn more about grief and loss than you're prepared for. It's inevitable, an occupational hazard of sorts. There have been too many families I've seen decimated by loss. It's hard. It's painfully hard. That hard has changed my life in ways that are profound and frightening.
As I am packing and preparing for our family to go on vacation in a few weeks, I can't stop thinking about Melissa Graves, the mom whose little boy was snatched by an alligator while vacationing at Disney. I can imagine she was preparing much the same as I am now for her family's vacation last week.
Dear adults, all the other stuff: the guns, the terrorism, the politics, the lgbt angle, the religious opinions, are making it hard to hear the, "I'm sorry for your loss" -- it's all just become white noise. So if that was or is your first reaction to a tragedy like this I encourage you to take a look at your heart.