The danger of opting for the storyline over a more complex and present truth is this: When we make up stories, we create an alternate reality. Rather than looking at our situation straight in the eye, we look at it from behind a protective lens.
While the decision to allow Oscar Pistorius to go about business as usual is shocking and outrageous, it's also fascinating because it provides us with almost naturalistic footage of the way prestige and money eat into the justice system
So give us a brief time to cry, to grieve. Something really bad happened. Let us work through our emotions. Then after that, spit in the eye of fate and the madmen, be proud of our cities and our nationality, and gain revenge in normality.
I feel unsatisfied. I don't feel soothed. Perhaps the problem is that I don't want to be soothed? Perhaps the idea that I might feel better tomorrow or the next day frightens me because I suspect that being soothed may simply lay the groundwork for another "shocking" attack.
Due to the 9/11 attacks, endless shootings, and even bombings, we are beginning to live in a world full of worry and terror. It is unimaginable that a person could perform these acts of terror on another. Yet, through all of the violence we endure.
Some of us may feel helpless in the midst of these tragedies, especially if we are far away or can't physically help another. If you are one of these people and are wondering what it is you can do to help, praying and sending healing energy are viable options.
A hometown tragedy is at once a painfully personal and strangely depersonalizing experience. The images on television aren't just places, they're my places. That's my street with the barricades. That's my library in the background.
The important thing to know is that children take their coping cues from us, the trusted adults in their lives. This isn't to say that we should cover our pain. Not at all. Rather, we need to model healthy coping mechanisms for our children.
I can see it on the streets of New York, and online on the social networks -- we are angry and want a response to Boston. The question we face now as individuals and as a nation is what to do with our anger.
I encourage you each to not spend these moments judging or attempting to discern who is guilty but rather to pray and to give. Pray asking for the abounding mercy and peace of God to be with the responders, medics, grief counselors and clergy.
The message has been broadcast load and clear for some time now and yet, as in any tragedy plot arc worth its salt, we are not heeding. Are there, perhaps, entities watching from afar, entreating, " Wait! Stop! What are you doing?!"
Take time to reflect on your healing story. Write it down, if it helps, or draw it, paint it. Express all of the feelings wrapped into your experience of the healing process, and know that in doing so, we all heal. We all move closer to wellness.
When you think about how you will spend these final days before 2013, what do you want to experience? And if something is not as you hoped, how will you feel? What would it take for you to feel hopeful and energetic in spite of adverse events?
When situations or people challenge us, we need to identify that we're angry, confused, or frustrated. If we acknowledge that we're likely to make poor decisions in these states, it's easier to find the motivation to let these emotions go.