I've learned over time and with experience that there are times to educate and times when it's best to be the trans ninja. I sometimes take a step back and evaluate how people will best receive and be open to listening to me. In my humble opinion, we can make more positive change by being warm, friendly, and respectful even to those who don't get us right now.
No pregnant trans man has been denied access to reproductive health services, according to reports; the problem lies with trans men feeling excluded by the language of providers. Well, it's not always about you or me, and demanding that the language that speaks to and empowers tens of millions of women should be neutralized so as not to offend a handful of trans men is unfair.
Jessie listed questions he thinks most people want to know the answer to but are too afraid to ask. Here I paraphrase his answers, which are based on his own experience and may not represent the experiences of every transgender person, but his responses reflect his own experience openly and honestly.
In February 2014 Queerty, the online magazine and newspaper focusing on gay topics, ran a piece titled "Seriously Sexy Trans Men Make Us Say 'Mmmm!'" What's interesting and horrid about the article? The comment section, which displayed the pervasive lack of understanding of transgender identities within the gay community.
Manhood is an accomplishment, an internal need and quest, for both cis and trans men. When we acknowledge this, the necessity and intelligibilty of questions like "But how do you know?" fades away. Seeing this will help dismantle one of the structuring cultural approaches to transgender people: mistrust.