For many trans and non-binary people -- especially those of us like me who are early on in our transitions and thus are more likely to have difficulty "passing" as our true genders to society -- there are few things more fraught than the prospect of using a public gendered restroom.
To those of you who think you're being helpful by "protecting" me and my fellow women, you're like a shark sitting in the lifeguard chair. I wasn't uncomfortable until you showed up at the pool and the only potential predator I see is you.
Amidst the vitriol and lies being thrown around about trans people, I worry that a few basic principles have been lost. Here are five things to remember when talking, writing, or thinking about trans people.
Transition is NOT for everyone who is trans. Transition in any given place or time is NOT for everyone. There is no shame in delaying or deferring transition; I delayed for twenty years. What works for me may not work for you.