HARTFORD, Conn. (AP) — A transgender girl detained without criminal charges for two months at an adult women's prison in Connecticut has been moved ...
Laughing was the moral equivalent of mocking someone for their stutter. Or telling a gay kid that he should never find love because you find that kind of sex icky. Or cheering on the police as they take a homeless veteran's shopping cart away, because you just want them to disappear. It. Was. Punching. Down.
A 16-year-old transgender girl spent 77 days alone in a Connecticut prison without ever being convicted of, or even charged with, a crime. Known publicly as "Jane Doe" because she is a minor, she sat alone in the York Correctional Institution, a high-security prison in Niantic, Connecticut, for two and a half months.
I would like to propose that when we see each other, when we greet each other, when we congratulate or debate each other, we do it all with great kindness; that no matter what we believe to be true or not true about words and the meanings behind them, we refuse to use any form of language that might be even remotely jarring to someone's spirit.
In February 2014 Queerty, the online magazine and newspaper focusing on gay topics, ran a piece titled "Seriously Sexy Trans Men Make Us Say 'Mmmm!'" What's interesting and horrid about the article? The comment section, which displayed the pervasive lack of understanding of transgender identities within the gay community.
When the hairstylist asked about my partner, I got to use female pronouns without feeling like I was breaking her trust in any way. I was strangely compelled to disclose my partner's transgender status, though. Why would I want to tack on some kind of modifier when identifying her as woman to a total stranger?