The sole purpose of separating men's and women's bathrooms is to preserve a sense of social order. It's similar to the reason we separate our sock drawer from our underwear drawer. Each thing has its assigned place, and that makes us feel better.
Transphobia is not what we should be teaching at our schools. Instead, we should be preaching and practicing tolerance and acceptance. Remember that transgender students are not lying, they are not dangerous, they are not tools for your bigotry.
I had found the Yin to my Yang and my ultimate BFF. We both went into our own directions but kept in contact and then I received the call. Eddie called me to inform me he was not gay. I remember thinking that this was a lost Queen and there was no way that he was straight.
The opponents once again claimed it was the "bathroom bill" and were successful in creating enough fear in the citizens to be afraid of those of us who are transgender. Yes, Houston, we have a problem!
"I had an endless amount of love for my son, but I did not speak up or stand up for him. I did not see his heart, when he came out as transgender. I only focused in on his gender identity. And so I have lost the chance to love and hug my son."
The next time a law like Houston's comes up -- and it will come up -- we owe transgender people better than tacit agreement. We owe the truth. It may not fix the problem, it may not ensure protection, but it's a lot better than staying silent.
A majority of Houston voters have expressed their willingness to discriminate against trans identified persons and most of the rest of us. They do not represent the majority of Houston residents. The voters had their turn. Now we must each find a way to express our unwillingness to join them.
Once you get beyond bigotry, prejudice and religious hostility, you're left mired in ignorance. And ignorance, at best, leads to at least a period of awkwardness before there can be understanding, and then acceptance.
One of the most mind-blowing parts of my medical transition didn't happen on the surgeons' slab. It didn't happen on the other side of a needle. It didn't happen when I changed my name. Nope. It happened while I was sitting on my couch and watching The Biggest Loser with my roommate.
It's easy to say it's "just a costume," and at the end of the night, you can take it off. But we can't take off our transness, and we will continue having to live with the consequences of the subtle, casual hatred your costume embodies.
For trans people the difference between the parties is very clear, but on the surface, based on the Democratic CNN debate, one might not know how stark the difference is between Democrats and Republicans.
There my face was, with no hair to frame it. And I looked just fine. That was the start of it all. That was my marked moment, when I figured out that what people say I should look like and how I actually want to look are mutually exclusive.
It is getting better, but it might not be good enough for any given individual just yet. The optimism of children and adolescents is understandable, but even when you find community on the internet you cannot simply assume that your parents and peers will support you.