Learning how to be male in a hyper-gendered world is confusing, to say the least. Some of the basic life skills that boys learn -- bathroom etiquette, how to measure pants sizes, barbershop terminology -- are the subject of my Google searches.
I'd gone to mixed martial arts training and boxed with cisgender guys, and no one had had any clue that I'd been designated as "female" at birth. I don't hide the fact that I'm transgender; I just don't see any reason to bring up my trans status with that group. Allow me to explain.