What is most interesting to me is what it's like to be transgender on a daily basis. Is it really that big a deal? Are most people liberal enough to see past one small part of somebody's identity? How does this play out every day? Since I spoke to Freiya, my eyes have opened to things that would not even have occurred to me.
Working Mother has named me "Working Mother of the Year." In fact, this is the first time a transgender woman has been chosen to receive the magazine's prestigious award. Remarkable, isn't it? Actually, it's not. I'm just like any other mom. What is remarkable is the staggering inequality we working mothers face.
A 16-year-old transgender girl spent 77 days alone in a Connecticut prison without ever being convicted of, or even charged with, a crime. Known publicly as "Jane Doe" because she is a minor, she sat alone in the York Correctional Institution, a high-security prison in Niantic, Connecticut, for two and a half months.
Manhood is an accomplishment, an internal need and quest, for both cis and trans men. When we acknowledge this, the necessity and intelligibilty of questions like "But how do you know?" fades away. Seeing this will help dismantle one of the structuring cultural approaches to transgender people: mistrust.