Throughout our lives, all I ever wanted was to be a big sister. As I was wheeled into my gender confirmation surgery, I took comfort in knowing that my family was there.
For this year's transgender awareness week I wanted to write about something that the transgender community and its allies are often afraid to discuss...
The prevailing Black Church culture forces too many to face the untenable choice: hide behind a mask or be cast aside from an extended family they've known all their lives.
Simply recognizing, or even celebrating, that trans people are equal and essential members of the body of Christ may not adequately overcome a world of anti-trans violence and loathing.
Faith, trust and the courage to live as the person you know yourself to be all come into play in Karolina Bielawska's moving, award-winning documentary Call Me Marianna. The film has been turning heads at film festivals around the world.
Despite the overwhelming evidence that my daughter is a girl, the institution that is charged with educating and enlightening our children was only concerned with her body. The district therefore did not allow her in the girls' locker room.
Neither the gay nor the ally community has been free of having to deal with the "ick factor," and there is just as much trans homophobia as there is gay transphobia, in my experience. Just as racism goes both ways, but is far more significant when directed against the powerless, gay transphobia is far more dangerous than trans homophobia.
Apparently we not only want to be with people like us, but we also seem afraid of those who are not like us.
I am proud to announce that Equality Federation's staff and board, several of whom identify as queer, have decided to add the letter Q to our mission and begin using the full acronym LGBTQ. To some this decision may seem like we are late to the party and to others it may be a challenge.
As a Black trans woman, I am used to unfair and discriminatory treatment, but this was extra upsetting because we were paying customers at a hotel and on our way to a funeral. I felt like I had no rights.
Hearing Chelsea's voice was a powerful reminder: President Obama may talk a good talk when it comes to gay rights, but his Administration's policies speak louder than his speech-writer's words, and they're detrimental to LGBTQ+ people around the world.
We have passed laws forbidding discrimination against people because of their color or sexual orientation, but those laws are under attack now. This fear-driven backlash has twisted discrimination into a freedom of religion.
The night of my "passing," I realized I'd achieved in six months what some never achieve their entire lives. And in that moment, I recognized that I had a very specific type of privilege; a type that carries with it painful implications.
You might not want to harm trans people, but that's the thing about casual transphobia; It doesn't need to have true hate behind it to be real and harmful.
I had found the Yin to my Yang and my ultimate BFF. We both went into our own directions but kept in contact and then I received the call. Eddie called me to inform me he was not gay. I remember thinking that this was a lost Queen and there was no way that he was straight.
The opponents once again claimed it was the "bathroom bill" and were successful in creating enough fear in the citizens to be afraid of those of us who are transgender. Yes, Houston, we have a problem!