Yes, being awake to systematic racism is a constant discomfort, but living it is something most of us could never even imagine. So honestly, being aware is like the LEAST we can do.
Openly loving a trans woman might seem like a courageous act, but it is not nearly enough. Circumstances demand that we come out as a community, speak out, and join the struggle to ensure that trans lives truly matter.
Is it really for those of us with queer identities or, like any other Hollywood project, is it targeting the mainstream? I am inclined to believe the latter, and I believe that we should support the movie despite its glaring historical inaccuracies for, once again, the sake of courting the "average American."
When President Yoweri Museveni of Uganda signed the Anti-Homosexuality Bill into law, he changed the lives of all LGBTI people in Uganda, one of the most dangerous countries for gay and transgender people. For my friend Cleopatra Kambugu, it was one of the worst days of her life.
For transgender people, claiming our authentic gender identity is very challenging. For children, that's especially true. Our voices are silenced very early.
We cannot and will not stand by any longer as our sisters and siblings are murdered in the streets, ignored by the nation and misgendered by the media.
While few shows have given me finales that wholly satisfied me, even fewer have given me finales that wholly dissatisfied me. However, PLL is up on the wholly dissatisfying list now.
Kudos to companies like Target for being market leaders in the fight for gender equality. Recently, Target announced it would remove gender-based signage. This has some consumers up in arms, but I think this is long overdue in a modern society.
Using transgender people and their transitions as a twist, and a way to explain psychotic behavior, is just plain lazy writing and has been for 50 plus years.
By all outward appearances I was pretty successful. I was married for 25 years, raised 3 fabulous kids in an upper middle class suburb and thought I was living the American dream of the boomer generation that I was part of. Yet, I knew there was something missing.
So here we are then: "Soon" no longer cuts it when blood is being spilled, and our fellow humans are being denied housing, jobs and ultimately, common decency because of who they are.
The filmmakers may be scrambling in post-production to try to fix all of the issues people see with the film, but it's unlikely they will manage to fix the most egregious errors.
Being authentic and true to myself was my decision and now I live in my own truth. My sisters and brothers lets strive to be the best citizens we can be and show our communities we are just people trying to live in our own truth.
I recognize that in some contexts the word 'cis-' is useful, particularly in legal documents. I also understand the alienating nature of 'othering' language, which would include making a binary of 'trans' and 'nontrans'. However, a 'trans'/'cis-' binary is a problem.
This journey into becoming a trans godmother has much more to offer than I can begin to imagine. Our discussions have included the maybe-one-day events of seeing my goddaughter get married and start a family of her own. Who knew? Who could have known? I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. Blessed be.
Some who know me and my work would be very surprised that I have been slow to come out to my stepson. Even for a hard core transgender activist and sex educator, confronting the shame that I may be dumping on my kids head in the middle of teenage angst and middle school has been hard to bear.