When the show premieres, you'll likely find me here, banging my head against a wall as I watch my people exploited, lumped into one big, over-the-top mess. There's a chance I'll be completely wrong about this, but something tells me that that's not going to be the case.
My hope was that, by addressing questions raised about my past, I could move beyond initial curiosity and keep the focus on my work. It was also an opportunity to uphold my responsibility to LGBT youth. At least that is what I hoped would be the result. Was that naive?
The viewing was almost unbearable. The person who prepared Tocarra for the visitation must have looked only at what was between her legs to determine how to dress the body, and never considered what gender may have been in her heart. Things only got harder when the sermon began.
In December 2011 she informed Ian Lowe, Executive Director of Pi Lambda Phi, that although she had been initiated into the fraternity as a male (in alignment with the fraternity's policies and guidelines), she now identified as a transgender woman and was in process of transitioning.
I am heartened by the new focus on gender expression and its significance for gay as well as trans persons, and hopeful that such a focus will force our state and national advocacy organizations to evolve in a manner that will benefit all of us, and in particular the least among us.
The issue of anti-LGBT violence in Russia has become a cause célèbre over the last several months, in part due to the approaching Winter Olympics in Sochi, but homophobic and transphobic violence are problems in every region of the world, including in the United States.
After transgender activist Kat Haché replied to one of Kincannon's tweets on an entirely different topic, Kincannon launched into an anti-transgender tirade, making use of slurs, name calling, and his belief that transgender individuals should be locked away in concentration camps.
I was able to spot two small, simple signs: "Stop Co-Ed Showers in Schools" and "No Opposite Sex in School Bathrooms." I realized that the hordes of tourists were waiting for their chance to add signatures to the growing petition to topple California's new law protecting transgender students.
The love between partners who love like this is not to be hidden or denied, as some who pray would claim. Rather, such love is the fulfillment of divine promise and thus is to be celebrated as a love through which all on Earth may bless themselves.
We, as a community and as a movement, can choose to just check a box and pat ourselves on the back, or we can choose to fight for a bill that we'll all be proud of. We can choose to demand a bill that treats us as fully equal -- with no asterisks.
I'm gay-friendly. Always have been. And proud of it. But I am ashamed to say that until quite recently, this wasn't the case when it came to transgender people. For a very long time I saw trans people as gay people who were ashamed or afraid to be themselves.
Coming out is one of the fundamental experiences that ties LGBT together. We also share the stresses caused by the cognitive dissonance required to live a lie. When we refuse to stick up for one another, we deny the reality and lessons of our own experiences.
We must not just tell our stories to change the minds of strangers who might do us harm so that one day we'll be safe to walk down our streets; we must keep telling our stories, wholly and completely, to those who love us so that they can hold and support us and sustain us.
Most human beings are closeted in one form or another. We all have secrets, what are euphemistically called "skeletons in the closet." While in the closet, we lead lives, as Thoreau said, "of quiet desperation." I believe that coming out is so powerful because it is a universal desire.
The surgery date for mid-October 2013 was taken off the surgery schedule and delayed indefinitely. Why this happened is still a mystery that I would like to solve. But Danielle was not willing to wait. She took another road to becoming what she couldn't wait one minute more to become.