Unraveling my feelings revealed the question they had obscured, which was the same one any lawyer may be asked: How have your experiences made you into who you are, and how has your identity impacted your practice of law?
The rallying cries of the transgender community are no longer heard only by left-leaning, insular groups without a stake in commerce, business or popular culture.
Eliminating the binary does not mean that someone can not identify as purely male or purely female. It means that no one has to. Gender does not paint the picture of who I am. Who I am paints the picture of my gender. Why not use all of the colors on the palette?
It would be nice, for once, if actual transgender people were given a platform to actually say that we exist, on our own terms. It would be refreshing if there was an acknowledgment that fixing the problems we face is going to take more than pride and proclaiming that we exist.
Liberal, open, curious, that's me, I shouted silently. But if that was true, how could I have made such a mistake?
Dorothy Allison wrote, "Two or three things I know for sure, and one of them is just this -- if we cannot name our own we are cut off at the root...." I use this quotation each year for my church's Trans Day of Remembrance service, an event I am tired of observing. I'm weary of counting our dead, and weary of reading the ways we die.
My piece was intended to be a discussion about gender identity, transphobia, and what integration looks like as LGBT (IQQA, etc.) rights continue to progress in our society. Unfortunately, the piece was hurtful a lot of people, many who thought that my intent all along was to malign and misrepresent the leather community.
As religious people, we are called to love our neighbor as ourselves. There's not a qualifier to that command. Love one another. That is the basis of community, religious or otherwise.
Drew has helped me truly accept that I am loveworthy, deserving of being loved for all of who I am. He has shown me that I have been and always will be more than enough for someone.
Determinations of what medical treatments are covered by Medicare are made mostly by regional decision-making bodies, but there is a small number of national rules -- called NCDs -- regarding whether certain treatments are covered by Medicare. In 1981, HHS issued an NCD that Medicare does not cover transition-related health care.
We must find a way to understand the damage we do. We can't continue to throw around words that we don't find personally offensive and wash our hands of the harm they cause to someone else. If we do anything less than put an end to the use of anti-trans* slurs, then we are just bullies.
Last Friday, I traveled to Niantic, Connecticut to visit with Jane Doe, a transgender 16-year-old being held at the high security York Correctional Facility for adult women. Jane has been sitting alone at York for 51 days.
"Come to find out I loved the riding, I loved everything about it. And it turns out I was really good. Here were all these really skinny, young, good-looking guys in their biker shorts looking all pretty. And I was all sweaty and gross-looking but I could go faster than them."
Don't wait another second. You can recover from a lot of things -- a lost job, people in your life who react badly, discrimination, and much more -- but the one thing you can never get back is your youth. Spend it being who you are, not running away from it.
What city in Kansas has passed three LGBT inclusive ordinances in the last 8 months, put on a nationally recognized TDOR event, has a church that declared support for marriage equality, is getting ready to have a Pride Prom, and is planning a Pride Parade & Picnic for September?