I told them about how difficult and sad my life had been and how I had embarked on a spiritual journey to learn how to be happy. It was that journey that led to me peeling off the layers of fear and shame that had protected and cut me off from the world. Underneath, I discovered Abby.
The first time I wore women's clothes, I was in junior high in coastal Alabama. My school club was hosting a womanless beauty pageant to raise money and asked us boys to participate.
In a world that is saturated in patriarchy and gender based violence, imagine how powerful and life saving it would be if men, masculine presenting people and cis-gender identified people started standing up as allies too.
In his interview with Diane Sawyer, Bruce Jenner confidently said, "We are going to change the world." Every brand, every business, every person should be thinking the same way.
If we look to her for a lesson in transgender identity, we may be left wanting. But if we scale back to put her unique story in its time and place and in a wide and rich history, some valuable things come into focus.
So Caitlyn's gift to the larger world is not just a deeper acceptance of transgender people, as wonderful as that is. It also mirrors that we have begun to reach one of the last stages of re-equalizing masculine and feminine within our society.
Dolezal's white-to-black "passing" is the complication of both white guilt and white rage in an era of Affirmative Action.
Sandy Stone and Kate Bornstein were together talking at Trans Pride L.A. this weekend; I was there whenever they were in the same room answering and asking questions. The last room slowly emptied of people; I gave Sandy a huge hug and thanked her, and then sat to wait for Kate with my beloved trans friend Kevin.
Fathers don't have to be biologically related to their children. Dads can be queer. They can be kind. Fathers shouldn't have anything to do with upholding patriarchal male standards. Fathers are all genders. Fathers can be so much more then what our traditional view of them is.
In Park Slope, Brooklyn on a recent Saturday this June, a picture perfect summer day started early with a speedy bicycle race around Prospect Park. Later the Pee Wee League was swinging at everything at Our Lady's Field, and in mid-afternoon, neighbors in floppy hats and gloves were happily pruning and chatting at the 6/15 Green Community Garden underneath the shade of a massive weeping willow.
I am still in love with the person I married back in 1984. A person who today is a she. I have witnessed true joy in the person I've grown a life with -- a person whose blue eyes shine because she feels right in her own skin.
Only straight, cisgender* women are isolated, manipulated, emotionally abused, stalked, micromanaged, sexually coerced, and physically abused by their partners, right? Ah, no.
The only thing transracial and transgender have in common is their prefix.
I do believe that transracial identity is a legitimate issue and one worth further investigation and acceptance by mainstream society, however, there is something unsettling in the way that Rachel Dolezal attempted to infiltrate black culture.
Have 40 years of Pride celebrations crafted and showcased by white gay men held back the advancement of rights for transgender people of color?
We've gone from gross insensitivity to obnoxious oversensitivity. If we are to agree that both race and gender are social constructs, then how can we logically condemn one for identifying with a different race while lauding one for identifying with a different gender?