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Transracial Adoption

'I Wish a Brown Family Adopted Me'

Gina Sampaio | Posted 08.06.2015 | Parents
Gina Sampaio

It's hard not to start bawling when your 6 year old stops getting ready for school to tell you, "I wish a brown family adopted me." It was one of those parenting moments in which I had to take a breath, hide my emotions and proceed with caution.

Remembering Mom's Love in a Breakfast Bowl

Joel Peterson | Posted 08.06.2015 | Parents
Joel Peterson

When I arrived from Korea as her new son, I was nearly 7 years old, and my mother knew that Koreans did not eat the same breakfast that American's typically ate.

Bound By Children, Two Mothers Navigate Open Adoption Across Racial Lines

Lakshmi Iyer | Posted 07.30.2015 | Parents
Lakshmi Iyer

I follow her blog. She follows mine. We follow each other on Twitter. We are Facebook friends. Our relationship is complex. She is American. I am Indian. She is Christian. I am Hindu. She eats meat. I do not. She lives in the Southwest. I live in the Northeast. Neither friends nor immediate family, we are linked by our children. She gave birth to them. I raise them.

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What It Really Means To Be Transracial And Black

HuffingtonPost.com | Zeba Blay | Posted 07.08.2015 | Black Voices

Photo by Luke Ratan It's been weeks since the nation became obsessed with -- then subsequently forgot about -- Rachel Dolezal. In choosing ...

Thinking About Independence, and the Freedom to Explore My Identity, on the 4th of July

April Dinwoodie | Posted 07.02.2015 | Parents
April Dinwoodie

The fourth of July is upon us, a holiday that signifies a meaningful moment in U.S. history, a date that marks our official independence as a nation. Over time, freedom and independence have come to take on very deep meaning for me as a transracially adopted person.

The One Thing You Should Say To An Adoptive Family

Rachel Garlinghouse | Posted 06.29.2015 | Parents
Rachel Garlinghouse

The truth is, most of the time, I don't want to even begin to take on the role of adoption educator. I'm just trying to buy toilet paper while keeping my toddler from dashing off to attack an endcap of candy bars.

My Nickname: A Cautionary Tale About Racism

Joel Peterson | Posted 06.28.2015 | Impact
Joel Peterson

We have seen the devastation that racism can perpetrate when the hate embedded within it festers in silence at the margins of our society. But where does this sort of racism come from? I don't know that I have the answer, but I do have a particular, firsthand experience that may give some insight into the question.

The Transparency of a "Incog-Negro"

Irene Monroe | Posted 06.22.2015 | Black Voices
Irene Monroe

Dolezal's white-to-black "passing" is the complication of both white guilt and white rage in an era of Affirmative Action.

On Father's Day, Thinking of the Dad Who Raised Me -- and the Father Who Might Not Know I Exist

April Dinwoodie | Posted 06.18.2015 | Parents
April Dinwoodie

All that I do and all that I am is wrapped up in two men; one gave me life and the other raised me. I simply would not exist without one and can't imagine my life without the other.

Transracial Lives Matter: Rachel Dolezal and the Privilege of Racial Manipulation

LisaMarie Rollins | Posted 06.17.2015 | Black Voices
LisaMarie Rollins

For those of you who don't know, transracial identity IS a thing and yeah, #TransracialLivesMatter but in many more ways than you think.

I Am Black. Rachel Dolezal Is Not.

Rebecca Carroll | Posted 06.15.2015 | Black Voices
Rebecca Carroll

I'm a black adoptee who grew up in a rural, predominantly white town, with a white family. And what strikes me as the most perverse and pathological aspect of this story is Dolezal's relationship to -- and ultimate identity theft of -- her black adoptive siblings.

To The Friend Who Is on the Fence About Adopting a Baby

Rachel Garlinghouse | Posted 05.13.2015 | Parents
Rachel Garlinghouse

A pregnancy involves conception and ultrasounds and birth plans and stretch marks. Adoption involves stacks of paperwork, no "due date" and many uncertainties. However, the end result is the same: parenthood.

I Have The Big Job Of Teaching My Black Children About Police

Rachel Garlinghouse | Posted 05.01.2015 | Parents
Rachel Garlinghouse

Police, at this point in my children's lives, continue to represent and practice safety, assistance, respect and justice. But I know the day is coming when my children will stop being adorable little kids who garner high-fives and smiles and compliments from adults.

6 Key Factors to Consider for an Open Adoption

April Dinwoodie | Posted 06.28.2015 | Parents
April Dinwoodie

Some people experience anxiety at the prospect of this unique relationship in their lives, and some families find this aspect of their adoption journey challenging. To ensure that a child feels loved and supported by all family members, both birth and adoptive, here are six things to keep in mind.

'Gotcha Day,' Meeting Your Adopted Child

Patrick Hicks | Posted 06.27.2015 | Parents
Patrick Hicks

Most parents go to a hospital to meet their child for the first time. My wife and I went to the Omaha airport, and it was there, shortly before midnight, that our internationally-adopted son arrived from South Korea. He was 51 weeks old.

It's National Sibling Day, and My Kids Get to Celebrate Too

Rachel Garlinghouse | Posted 06.10.2015 | Parents
Rachel Garlinghouse

We've been asked many questions since choosing to adopt and becoming a transracial family. Did you get to name the kids? I thought all adopted kids had problems? Were your kids born addicted to drugs? Could you not have your own children? Do you do their hair?

Dear New Momma (Through Adoption)

Madeleine Melcher | Posted 06.02.2015 | Parents
Madeleine Melcher

Maybe you just came from the hospital with this little being snuggled to your chest, or perhaps you recently finalized with an older child who has never truly known "the forever" of family... either way, you are mommies. Real ones. No one can take that from you.

The Question About My Transracial Family I'm Tired Of Being Asked

Sam Lanevi | Posted 01.24.2015 | Teen
Sam Lanevi

I want people to think about what makes their family a family. Is it shared physical features, or because of the love you share for one another? My family is a family because of the latter.

What's Wrong With Cheerios' Gay-Adoption Commercial

Frank Ligtvoet | Posted 12.08.2014 | Gay Voices
Frank Ligtvoet

I am a white gay dad of two African-American kids as well, and I can surely relate to the feelings of these men in an intimate way. But honestly, I am taken aback by the commercial.

How This White Mother Plans To Help Her Black Children Deal With Racism

HuffPost Live | Chris Branch | Posted 10.07.2014 | Parents

Mom of three Rachel Garlinghouse joined HuffPost Live Tuesday to talk about the challenges that come along with parenting children of another race. ...

How I Met My 'Mother'

Ipsita Paul | Posted 11.18.2014 | Women
Ipsita Paul

As the visit was winding down and we got up to leave, Bio Mom was crying. I felt terrible that I felt nothing for her.

An Ethnicity Conversation Your Adoptive Child Wants You to Have

Elizabeth Connolly | Posted 11.12.2014 | Politics
Elizabeth Connolly

My experience with being a transnational, transracial adoptee, for example, is not uncommon, especially among Asian American adoptees from China and Korea. For several summers during my childhood I attended Culture Camp (also Heritage Camp) for Asian adoptees.

The Reality Of Raising African-American Boys In America

Christopher Thangaraj | Posted 10.26.2014 | Parents
Christopher Thangaraj

Despite good grades, accomplishments, pleasant manners and common sense, many of our sons are seen as aggressive or prone to violence. When they transgress, as kids will always do, they are judged on a double standard.

Do We Support Children and Families After Adoption From Foster Care? Not So Much

Adam Pertman | Posted 06.29.2014 | Impact
Adam Pertman

Preparing and supporting adoptive and guardianship families both before and after adoption not only helps to preserve and stabilize at-risk placements, but also offers children and families the best opportunity for success.

Growing Up Amid Racism In The 1970s

Tom Cramer | Posted 03.22.2014 | Fifty
Tom Cramer

Sometimes, my enthusiasm for writing has blinded me. Quite simply, I love to use words to share my experiences. If anyone tells me they've read one of my posts, I'm happy. If they say they enjoyed it, I'm thrilled. If they say they felt it like they were there, I'm floating. My pursuit of those emotions has, at times, caused me to overlook the feelings of others.