In the midst of my darkest hour -- as I desperately tried to find my way, in tiny moments I started writing Choosing Hope. I didn't know it at the time of course -- I just started pouring my heart out onto the page. That became my lifeline, my way forward. There is a way forward from darkness -- focusing on the light that is also all around.
If we can deal with the residue of pain so that it doesn't undermine our ability to have nourishing relationships, the rest will fall into place. The thing not to do is to pretend that nothing happened, something did and it can and needs to be addressed if we truly want to turn the tide of the legacy of addiction.