The unfolding sense of safety with other vets and families, the welcoming embrace of the Bay and its birds, fish, and harbor seal pups helped reservist Mike name an obstacle and find a crease through which he began to come to life.
We try to create order by blaming someone or something. We can blame God and sometimes even blame the victim. But usually we blame ourselves, irrational as it may be. All of this is an effort to calm our brains and try to make sense of our lives.
What women veterans need is fundamental respect, recognition, and understanding of the unique stressors of their service experience. They need humane, integrative treatment, and some programming solely with and for their fellow women veterans.
At the outset of World War II, the British Ministry of Information came up with the slogan "Keep Calm and Carry On" for a poster designed to allay the fear that Germany would invade Great Britain. My friend, a commander serving in Afghanistan, uses it for his signature line.
Because of the authority with which words like "clinical depression" or "bipolar" are used in modern conversation, they are given the impression that those words have a permanence and solidity they do not actually have.
Human beings seem infinitely adaptable. But there is no silver bullet, no quick fix potion that will make a soldier, sailor, airman or Marine invulnerable to five, six or more tours of duty in today's war zone and the separations from loved ones.
A ghost gradually becomes an ancestor, and traumatic experiences become memories, by a most human alchemy. The beloved community provides the inspiration, the spirit of support, so we can stop holding our breaths in traumatic reaction and anticipation, and finally exhale.
Which is worse: coming up against one of life's Epically Awful Moments only to find all of your friends spewing some tired old cliche, or attempting to comfort someone who's just endured an Epically Awful Moment of her own using the only thing you can come up with -- the same cliche?
Most people associate war zone trauma solely with PTSD, but the psychiatric syndrome, whatever the acronym we use for it, doesn't capture the depth and power of what keeps some veterans awake, eating at them from the inside for years.
With new data revealing that both bullies and victims are at higher risk for suicide, our eyes are opening to the fact that we're faced with a potentially life-threatening situation. So what can we do to protect our children against the painful effects of bullying?
Strife-ridden societies aren't furnished with peaceful town squares. I'm talking about my girls and me sitting in the dirty corner of a church, creating a temporary space from scratch with our presence.
We have yet to see the full toll of 9/11 among first responders, even 10 years out. All relevant resources should be made available to address the burden of illness shouldered by these brave souls who rushed toward the very thing most of us with just average courage would flee.
Stolorow has become, in my view and those of others, one of the country's pre-eminent thinkers on the subject of trauma. Hence, his recent book, World, Affectivity, Trauma: Heidegger and Post-Cartesian Psychoanalysis .