We are capable of change. Even tiny, incremental changes can shift ways of seeing, smelling, tasting, breathing and being. As a dear friend reminds me, a butterfly flaps its wings in Paris and we have a sweet summer storm in New England.
You are what you attract. These men are simply of reflection of yourself. There is something that has happened that has caused you not to fully trust yourself to care for, protect and nurture your own heart. The foundation of any amazing relationship starts with self-love.
Great relationships require a high level of integrity in order to thrive. When a violation of trust, large or small, occurs, it's important to examine the conditions that contributed to the situation and to engage in a healing process that will restore trust and goodwill to the relationship.
Sometimes enough is enough, and it takes a lot of courage to end a marriage after so many years together. One way to avoid reaching that point is to make sure those trust issues that appeared in the earlier years of your marriage don't go unchecked or ignored.