I think in our culture, events tend to seem separate from other events in our lives. The only similarity is that they are connected through the person experiencing them. We place a great emphasis on what we do, not what happens to us. Things have to happen the right way and because of our own doing.
I believe that if we make the effort to listen, we can hear our hearts guiding us. And if we think we can ignore its wisdom, we will lose our way. Eventually we have to face up to our past choices. But doing so gives us an opportunity to bring our love and compassion into the world by listening to our wise hearts.