Arguing in and of itself can be very upsetting, so it isn't surprising that some people look to avoid it completely. The problem is that if you do that you will close off an important channel of communication that can eventually lead to a better place.
The great Johnny Cash said, "You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone." And sometimes those stones lead to triumph. Just ask music video goliath Roy LaManna who has attributed to the success of thousands of videos from top artists including Justin Bieber and The Killers.
Partners of trans folk -- especially heterosexual cisgender male partners of trans women -- need to start coming out and stop treating their partners as a source of shame. We need to start having discussions about the problems within our community