It's great to be part of a community. In a community, such as the various Jewish communities, you have people to turn to, who will mobilize for you and share your joys and your challenges. Except when you don't.
All my life I had worked to build my confidence as a member of the LGBT community. And here was a man from halfway around the world whom I had never met before telling me whom to sleep with. This man whom I worked so hard not to stereotype was proving to be ever so stereotypical.