I get the addiction. I succumb to it myself, because it's human. That's why we have to learn to use the technology mindfully and not buy into the social construct that it's okay to be mindless, rude and disconnected from the real world as long as we use the "I'm busy" excuse.
The survival instinct designed to give us tools to fight or flee has turned on us. Now that it is on inappropriately, this response can have the opposite effect. Instead of saving our lives, it can contribute to insomnia, depression, panic attacks, and a host of other health concerns.
In the 1840s, Benjamin Disraeli, still a long way from being prime minister, wanted to wake people up to the plight of the British working class. The alarm he sounded wasn't delivered in a speech, a pamphlet, or an article -- but in a novel, Sybil, published in 1845. Ever since I read Sybil when I was at Cambridge, I've loved thinkers and writers who use storytelling to reach people and get us to act. And so it was that I found myself moderating a panel discussion last week with the director and two cast members of a movie that uses storytelling to wake us up to one of the biggest problems of our modern age: the effect that being "connected" to technology 24/7 is having on our ability to connect with our lives, ourselves, and the people we love. Like so many people, this is something I struggle with on a regular basis. That's why Disconnect struck a nerve.
Burnout can be an opportunity for growth and decision-making that can improve your life and allow you to once again become a positive member of your family, workplace, and community.
Stepping out of our worldly identity can lead us to the freedom of "no self." No self, no problems. Embrace this awareness, and we find the joy of being our true self in the world.
We all know that our lives are overbooked, and it seems to be getting worse. But lately I've been wondering if we're busier than we really need to be. Are we creating extra work and obligations for ourselves by thinking we're more essential than we actually are?
Taking time to know myself was the most powerful process I've experienced, and being alone was the most authentic thing I've done. My true inner journey began with the un-doing.
Most of the time our problems are within our control to fix, and eating is likely not going to help. Thus, what we should be doing is focusing on how to fix our problems. That's where problem-focused coping comes in.
Last week, I went to see a one-man show at a private arts club. In the midst of his monologue, the performer stopped himself and said, "What would you do if you woke up in the morning and knew you were going to die?" I sat up. Now that's a question.
There are a few key factors that determine one's ability to successfully practice deep breathing. A few key pointers can give people the awareness they need so that they may utilize the gift of breath to restore and enhance the body's balance, freedom and health.
It's easy for adults to tell children how to react in bullying situations, including those where the child is a mere witness to such events. Right? What about when witnessing other adults being bullied?
There is a need for a new way of working, one that is designed for the end-user, the worker, the human. It is not just about adding wellness programs to unhealthy work -- it is about designing work so that it is itself healthy.
Musician Amanda Palmer's TED 2013 talk, "The Art of Asking," resonated with me as a reminder that, even in today's seemingly impersonal digital age, human connection is still a powerful currency.
Being "always on" is then seen as a badge of honor, locking employees in competition to send emails at the oddest possible hour of the night. Who hasn't received an inconsequential email at 3 in the morning? What ever happened to sleep, and to the great unicorn of work-life balance?
Observing the way your mind and body reacts to different types of interaction with technology can help in pinpointing where your anxiety is coming from -- and, through mindful awareness, to challenge your automatic reactions.
Developing a positive mind-frame is about changing your way of thinking and allows you to succeed in spite of the most frequent obstacles on your path. It's about increasing your determination to be better, smarter, and more efficient with literally everything you do.
If employees want to reach their full potential, the smart nerds have something to learn from the dumb jocks. Study after study suggests that athletes make excellent employees and even better leaders.
Your stress response -- at work, or anywhere else -- is determined not by what happens out there, but by how you respond to it. Which is why having a sense of purpose, connection, and strong relationships can boost your resilience no matter what's going on.
One of the most important aspects of being human is the fact that we have feelings -- all day long. And yet, rarely are we taught healthy ways to cope with them. Who among us learned about coping with emotions in school?
Disconnectivity (from technology) anxiety is an actual disorder now. Reread that before you go on please. People actually have anxiety over unanswered texts messages or a few hours away from a little piece of plastic.