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Valerie Alexander

The 3 Worst Pieces of Advice Everyone Just Keeps Giving

Valerie Alexander | Posted 06.30.2015 | Business
Valerie Alexander

There are three things everyone keeps telling grads, grooms and brides that can be retired permanently by now. Three pieces of advice that have never been good for embarking on adulthood or forming a more perfect union, and today, we can finally bid them adieu.

Women -- Stop 'Leaning' and Start Leading

Valerie Alexander | Posted 05.05.2015 | Women
Valerie Alexander

Demanding that the metrics be changed for us and our contributions recognized is not necessary once we start contributing the way men do -- confidently, taking ownership, without apology, and without concern for whether everyone else feels included.

Fifty Shades of Equality

Valerie Alexander | Posted 04.19.2015 | Women
Valerie Alexander

When almost everyone who decides which movies get made are men, and men are the ones writing and directing all of the stories, even stories supposedly about women, we women lose sight of what it looks, feels and sounds like to have our stories told from our perspective.

What Amazon Fails to Understand About Readers (...and Authors)

Valerie Alexander | Posted 02.17.2015 | Books
Valerie Alexander

I don't want my new relationship with a book, with all its promise of knowledge and thrills and emotions, to start with the action. I want that slow build of courtship that leads to longer and deeper satisfaction, which only a few "get-to-know-you" pages can supply.

It's 2015. How Are We Still Having These Conversations?

Valerie Alexander | Posted 02.13.2015 | Business
Valerie Alexander

The person kicking ass in a negotiation might have ovaries, but that doesn't require her to smile sweetly and make sure everyone is okay with the outcome of the deal. She has an agenda, just like everyone else, and if her agenda wins, that does not make her a bitch, it makes her a success.

Unhappy People Can Rain on Anything -- Even Coffee, Pirates and Free Doughnuts!

Valerie Alexander | Posted 11.20.2014 | Healthy Living
Valerie Alexander

Exactly one year ago, a study came out from researchers at Beihang University in China examining more than 70 million tweets from 200,000 users on Wei...

For Happiness, the Delete Key Is Your Friend

Valerie Alexander | Posted 11.09.2014 | Healthy Living
Valerie Alexander

Recently, I had to ask a friend for help. This person is in a position to help me, with very little sacrifice, and yet, he said, "No." He had a long e...

The Power of V-Day and Why #BringBackOurGirls Is Not Enough

Valerie Alexander | Posted 07.22.2014 | Women
Valerie Alexander

These actresses find depth and strength and power that surprise even themselves when they begin not so much delivering Eve Ensler's words, but channeling them.

Let Them Eat Cake!

Valerie Alexander | Posted 06.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Valerie Alexander

We are all going to die. Our parents are going to die. There is nothing any of us can do to stop that. So if you truly love someone, help that person find the most happiness they can during their time on this plane of existence, even if that shortens it slightly. I'd rather have five good years than eight lousy ones.

Choosing Happiness Over Fear, and How One Family Turned Misfortune Into a Mitzvah!

Valerie Alexander | Posted 06.11.2014 | Healthy Living
Valerie Alexander

Is it too late to get your deposits back? Don't marry the wrong person. Throw a party instead, host a reunion, feed the hungry. Celebrate the awesome achievement of choosing happiness over fear! Let others manage their own reactions, and if they want to judge you, let 'em.

My College Dreams Are Finally Coming True (and I Graduated Two Decades Ago)

Valerie Alexander | Posted 05.23.2014 | College
Valerie Alexander

If a young person in your life is college-bound, make a big deal of it! Have an acceptance dinner, throw a college shower to give her everything she needs. Pair that teenage matriculant with an older, college-grad family member to be a mentor, confidant and friend.

Why in the World Do We Need an International Day of Happiness, Anyway?

Valerie Alexander | Posted 05.18.2014 | Healthy Living
Valerie Alexander

Why should rabid capitalists like us care about anyone's happiness but our own? Think of it as enlightened self interest. Dozens of studies in the past few years all reach the same basic conclusion on this point -- happiness is achievable, and a happy society is more profitable.

Hey, Let's Stop Being Idiots, Okay?

Valerie Alexander | Posted 04.30.2014 | Green
Valerie Alexander

In Los Angeles, since Jan. 1, we've been struggling to overcome the horrors of the Great Grocery Bag Upheaval. To sum it up: Our leaders have banned plastic grocery bags altogether and now require shoppers to pay for paper bags. Oh, the humanity!

WATCH: Here's How To Actually Enjoy Your Commute

Posted 02.24.2014 | HuffPost Live 321

Commutes have a reputation for being a big headache, especially in cities where the journey to and from work has gotten longer and longer. Tricky ...

6 Ways for Singles to Have a Happy Valentine's Day

Valerie Alexander | Posted 04.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Valerie Alexander

February 14 can be one of the most challenging days of the year. Here are six simple ways to beat the blues during this year's Cupid-fest if you find yourself without that one special someone to share it with.

Four Rules of Happiness That You Can Ignore

Valerie Alexander | Posted 10.01.2013 | Good News
Valerie Alexander

Happier people are more productive, live healthier lifestyles, make better parents, and so on. But have we gotten to the point where happiness is a burden? Where the things we're supposed to do to "be happy" are causing more stress than joy?