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Validation

Gay Men and the Shirtless Selfie

Matthew J. Dempsey | Posted 07.06.2015 | Gay Voices
Matthew J. Dempsey

Social media let's us pick and choose what we present about ourselves, but how can we tell when it becomes more indulgent and less authentic?

Dear Society: I'm Beautiful Not Broken

Kristin Duquette | Posted 03.08.2015 | Women
Kristin Duquette

Dear society, I'm not a broken doll that's aimlessly waiting for validation on a dusty, old store shelf. My home is in my heart, and regardless of all the outside noise, I refuse to believe that I'm disfigured and made out of leftover pieces.

How Hard Is it to Be Truly in Love?

Tracy Crossley | Posted 10.11.2014 | Women
Tracy Crossley

Relationships provide the potential for growth. When there is an ease, an acceptance and support, it can actually help us to be kinder with ourselves and accomplish the dreams we seek.

How The Lion's Gate Changed My Story

Maureen Anderson | Posted 09.28.2014 | Books
Maureen Anderson

Once upon a time I wrote a book about a Vietnam veteran. I was in foreign territory, all right. I knew very little about war, weapons, world history, world geography, and almost anything else that would've helped me translate this man's experience to the printed page.

Feel Like You'll Never Be As Good As That Person?

Natalie MacNeil | Posted 08.24.2014 | Women
Natalie MacNeil

Ever fixate on someone else's success to the point that you think they shine the "brightest," just like the North Star? (But guess what? The North Star isn't the brightest star in the sky, not even close!) Their "star" doesn't shine any brighter than yours!

On the Road Again...

Candy Spelling | Posted 07.20.2014 | Entertainment
Candy Spelling

Trying to embrace a Second Act, figuring out what that is for each of us, may be different in many ways.

Create Time for Teacher Appreciation and Validation Meetings

Calee Prindle | Posted 07.19.2014 | Education
Calee Prindle

Teacher appreciation and validation is typically minimal and short. It usually comes during a faculty meeting in a 60-seconds or less "shout out" or in a quick conversation passing by in the hallway or standing in line for the copier.

It's Never Been About Vanity

Nancy Davis | Posted 06.25.2014 | Impact
Nancy Davis

The loss of my beautiful mane validates that I am indeed ill. All these years friends and strangers alike would remark, "Wow, you can't be sick you look so good", and damn it, I did look good!

Stop, Listen and Validate!

Rachel Cedar | Posted 04.06.2014 | Parents
Rachel Cedar

I'm not naïve about the way that children can treat one another, and I have no doubt that my son will be on the receiving end of teasing at some point in his life, but I certainly wasn't prepared to address it when we needed to be out the door five minutes ago.

You Are Not Alone

Polly Campbell | Posted 03.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Polly Campbell

When we actively work to connect and engage with others, we create a sense of belonging for everyone. That is the seed of meaning, peace, and resilience. And you know what? It just makes life more fun.

When Reassurance Becomes a Crutch

Andrea Umbach | Posted 02.19.2014 | Healthy Living
Andrea Umbach

We have all done it. We try to say something that is helpful and reassuring. We try to say something that will take away someone's fears or doubts. The problem is it usually doesn't work. And sometimes reassurance does the exact opposite of what we intend.

The Invisible Woman Syndrome Is Just a State of Mind

Amancay Tapia | Posted 02.15.2014 | Women
Amancay Tapia

Whoever you are and whatever you do, make sure you use any experience you have -- good or bad -- as the clay you need to transform your sculpture into a piece of art.

The Power of Love

Mary Paleologos | Posted 01.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary Paleologos

Self-love at its core is self-acceptance of who you are just as you are, the good and not-so-good parts of yourself. It's about self-respect and self-empowerment. It's about self-care and looking after yourself and having compassion for yourself when you are going through a hard time.

2 Easy Exercises For Better Relationships

Stephanie Michele | Posted 12.23.2013 | Healthy Living
Stephanie Michele

What do successful people have? Relationships that support their success. How did they get those relationships? They exercised effective communication. Here are two communication exercises that can significantly improve the quality of your relationships.

Giving Up the Story: A Journey to Mindful Divorced Parenting

Ellen Kellner | Posted 06.09.2013 | Divorce
Ellen Kellner

I gave myself permission to acknowledge the validity of my own story. And once known -- deeply, truly known and felt in my soul -- I didn't need anyone, including my ex -- to hear me.

We Validate Our Parking, Why Not Each Other?

Ilana Ross | Posted 05.01.2013 | College
Ilana Ross

Like my haircuts, my birthdays never turn out just the way I want. Somebody important forgets to call and then I realize this is just a day like any other day in history. The next thing I know I'm two skim lattes into a blog post about my irrelevance in the world.

Learn How to Not Jump the Gun

Deborah Calla | Posted 03.18.2012 | Healthy Living
Deborah Calla

Jumping the gun is when we are reacting to something rather than initiating. In these situations, stopping to take time will either allow us to see the light or allow for a greater sense of certainty once we decide on a course of action.

Validate Me

Amy Chan | Posted 11.07.2011 | Women
Amy Chan

We've all done it before -- played something up in order to make ourselves appear more important than we really are. Why do we do this?

Is A Simple Conversation The Best Treatment For Dementia?

Rita Altman, R.N. | Posted 10.20.2011 | Healthy Living
Rita Altman, R.N.

Many of the validation principles and communication techniques that were developed by Naomi Feil are taught to professional caregivers, and some eventually make their way to family caregivers as well.

On Men's Thoughts About Fashion and What We Should Make of Them

Morane Barkai | Posted 05.25.2011 | Style
Morane Barkai

The sad truth is that most men would probably think that Jimmy Choo is a noodle joint and would not know a poncho from a kimono.

Evangelical Pessimists, Stop Trying to Convert Me!

Dr. Paula Bloom | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Paula Bloom

We are each susceptible to the influences around us. It is important to realize this, and surround ourselves with happy, healthy thoughts.

3 Types of Perfectionistic Hunger

Pavel Somov, Ph.D. | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Pavel Somov, Ph.D.

Ask yourself: What am I hungering for? What am I chasing: perfection, approval, certainty, validation?

The Art and Science of Choosing Likely Voters

Mark Blumenthal | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics
Mark Blumenthal

On Wednesday Nate Silver posted a helpful table that compared registered voter and likely voter samples on seven recent national surveys, including bo...