I invite all the lonely, angry, nerdy little boys out there who are feeling that rage and creating a narrative where they are victims to remember that. I was once one of you. And I was wrong. I was so, so wrong.
Our fascination gets the best of us, and it starts to look a little too much like adulation, as we shower him with headlines and, as of yet, give his victims only a small percentage of the same press attention.
The well-established Los Angeles attorney clearly meant to counter my argument that we need a civil litigation "clients bill of rights," but he was inadvertently proving my key point: most of us have no idea about the "dark side" of civil justice.
It's time for heads to roll in the United States military. President Obama and Secretary of Defense Chuck Hagel must overhaul the system and start firing people. The talk and policy changes are not getting the job done for the thousands of victims of sexual assault in our armed services.
So eager to right the wrongs of bullying, we find ourselves determined to identify and punish the perpetrators, often forgetting that that alone will not mitigate the harm done to the youth who felt bullied.
Every time we ask the "why would someone do that" question, we are putting the victims that we seek to protect in the position of facing judgment, which in effect, makes it seem like the narrative is one of the victim's complicity with the action that has happened to them when it is anything but.
All their outrage seems to be focused on the national and racial identities of the powerful men accused -- and none focused on the hideous crimes these men are accused of committing against powerless victims. Why aren't we hearing more voices in support of the African victims of these atrocities?
When tragedy strikes it is our natural spirit to want to do something to manage our own feelings of helplessness and compassion. But perhaps in addition to what we do we need to focus on what we don't do as well.
Part of what terrorists try to do (aside from making political statements) is terrorize us. They attempt to make us feel unmitigated fear in living our daily lives. They want to constrict and diminish our lifestyles, and thereby lessen us. We cannot allow that to happen.