Remember the difference between the victor and the defeated. In the midst of failure the defeated finds blame and despair, while the victor learns a lesson and hopes to press on toward another day. If you live as a victor you will see more victories.
Accepting this different perspective on your disappointment--"I know it feels bad right now, but how can it fuel me?"--gives you the power to minimize the harm that your disappointment does to you in the future.
Ultimately, for you to keep pursuing your sports dreams, you must have faith that sports do make sense in the long run. Hopefully, that faith is rewarded with the results you want and the goals you have striven for. But, the reality is that sports don't always work out that way.
Eating smart takes knowledge, patience, and practice, and without patience there is no practice. Practice is the victory. Eat the food that is best for your body. You may live longer, be healthier, and have more fun through the years because of the food you choose today.
With the new year, what I feel in addition to excitement is a renewed confidence in my community, a belief that no matter what comes or what the future holds, we can make it, because we made it through last year.
No rational reason exists for doing this to our planet -- unless you count greed. Sadly, some people do. But even if you are willing to destroy 50,000 square miles of boreal forest just to make a profit, there's no way to justify destroying our future in the process.
Thirty years and 30 pounds later, I was making my comeback. I couldn't wait to check out the competition. There they were -- four kids, aged 7 to 13. That's right -- a total of five runners, including me. And I was old enough to be their (youthful) grandfather.
I have been working for the past year with a collegiate team with realistic aspirations of winning an NCAA championship. They have been an amazing group of athletes who have struggled through challenges, stayed committed to their goals, and remained united as a team.
Of course, scheduling regular family dinners together is an important ingredient for raising well-adjusted children. But after the last two weeks, I also believe the same principle applies to watching the Olympics as a family.
I have been thinking a great deal about what it takes for athletes to achieve what I consider to be an essential goal in all of their efforts. In doing so, I have come up with my Three Steps to Sports Success.
Why so much thinking about your sport now? Because when you head out to the field, court, course for the first competition of the season, you will have done all of the "heavy lifting" necessary and you can say, "I'm totally prepared to perform my best and achieve my goals."
I enter every conversation and interaction believing that it only takes one "yes" to propel me forward. Of course, you must realize that no one can help you obtain your goals if you fail to share your goals with others.
The presence of Sowilo (or Sowilu) at this time means we have persevered through hardship and truly mastered the work. Whatever has been pressing, its breakthrough and recently-revealed wisdom are lasting.
You get one shot in a competition, so you might as well take it, otherwise there will be a whole lot of "woulda, coulda, shoulda" when you look in the rearview mirror of your day on the field, course, court, hill, or what-have-you.