We've all seen the photos; black rivers of mascara streaming down the bride's cheeks while her groom is gulping for air like a fish out of water. It's not the most elegant look. It's also one of the most common concerns that my wedding couples have about their wedding ceremony; "how do I stop myself from ugly crying?"
What does one say when officiating a marriage ceremony? I would not evoke a religious theme, or talk about the sanctity of marriage. I woke a few nights before the wedding feeling inspired -- I would speak from experience, sharing with the intimate group of gathered guests the many reasons "we" marry.