Because I recognize the important Constitutional role chaplains play, not only in the lives of service members and their families, but also as key members of a commander's special staff, I oppose the latest proposed "solution."
Having an only child is the maternal equivalent of putting all your eggs in one basket, so to speak. Additional children give you the chance for a do-over or two; with only one, that's exactly how many chances you get to get the whole parenting thing right.
You've waited for this day your whole life. Not the wedding. Not the proposal. No, no. You've dreamed for years about the very first time you try on wedding dresses. You've invited all your besties, maybe even Mom and Dad.
You want to exchange vows on top of a mountain in the middle of Montana or hand-make everything including the soy candles? But all those personal and untraditional choices sometimes come with their own setbacks.
If it's true that we put our money where our mouth is, then for many American couples, weddings aren't about the spirituality. In other words, the priority of our society -- when it comes to weddings, at least -- is on the material things, not the spiritual ones.
Last December, San Jose, CA hairstylist, Jen Bulik, received the worst news possible and was diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer. She and her boyfriend of six years, Jeff Lang, a yoga instructor, decided to marry as soon as possible.
As a therapist practicing since 1995, one of the most common requests I receive is for a good book about marriage. This request is especially common among newly engaged couples and people who are struggling to decide whether to marry their current partner.