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What Not to Say

Why I'm Tired Of The 'Things Not to Say' Posts

Courtney Westlake | Posted 05.16.2016 | Parents
Courtney Westlake

For fear of offending or saying the "wrong" thing, we are creating a world where people are scared of reaching out, of trying to connect, of showing others that they do, in fact, truly care.

When "I Don't Know How You Do it" Is the Worst Thing to Say

Hillary Savoie | Posted 05.02.2016 | Parents
Hillary Savoie

So, the next time you talk with someone and you think, I don't know how you do it, flip IDKHYDI on its head and make it a question: How do you do it? If they laugh nervously and say, "Me? Oh I'm fine..." wait for more. Let them know it's okay to talk about their fears, hopes, and dreams.

11 Things Brazilians Are Tired Of Hearing

The Huffington Post | Carolina Moreno | Posted 02.03.2016 | Latino Voices

If you've ever assumed that all Brazilians play soccer like Pelé, dance samba like the Queen of Carnival or look like supermodel Alessandra Ambrosio,...

5 Questions To Stop Asking Wheelchair Users Immediately (And What To Ask Instead)

Karin Hitselberger | Posted 10.29.2016 | Women
Karin Hitselberger

The most important thing to remember when interacting with wheelchair users is that we want to be treated like anybody else.

7 Sentences You Shouldn't Say to Your Boss - Ever

Bernard Marr | Posted 05.01.2016 | Business
Bernard Marr

There are certain things all bosses dread to hear. "I lost the account," "There's a big mistake," and "I think the building is on fire," would all qualify, but I'm talking about sentences that may seem innocuous to you, but can be a big deal to your boss.

To All The Strangers Who Tell Me They're Sorry I'm Divorced: Don't Be

Laura Lifshitz | Posted 04.12.2015 | Divorce
Laura Lifshitz

To all the strangers out there who truly mean well when they tell me they're sorry I'm divorced, here's a news flash: Don't be. I'm healthy, employed and doing my best to co-parent a lovely child who is also healthy. Don't be sorry for me.

10 Things You Should Never Say to a Pregnant Woman

Sojourner Marable Grimmett | Posted 01.10.2015 | Parents
Sojourner Marable Grimmett

Both times that I've been pregnant, I had to deal with ignorant comments about my growing belly. During my first pregnancy, absolute strangers who wanted to know all the details about my blossoming baby bump fascinated me.

The Worst Thing You Can Say During Infertility

Seleni Institute | Posted 01.10.2015 | Parents
Seleni Institute

Maybe it's too much to expect emotional validation from a stranger in a grocery store, but Cochran says that many of her patients have been told to just relax when they open up to their closest girlfriends, or even their mothers about their fertility struggles. "It's heartbreaking."

32 Things No One Wants To Hear After A Breakup

The Huffington Post | Ashley Reich | Posted 11.06.2014 | Divorce

"I never liked him." "You could do so much better." "Now you have time to work on yourself!" Sound familiar? The BuzzFeed video above spotlight...

5 Questions I'm Sick of Hearing

Heather Risinger | Posted 12.27.2014 | Parents
Heather Risinger

Yes, I do. I DO put a leash on my kid. He runs off crazy and doesn't completely comprehend the English language at the ripe old age of 1.

5 Things Not To Say To Parents Of An Only Child

Barbara Greenberg | Posted 10.21.2014 | Parents
Barbara Greenberg

Let's visit some of the most frequent comments made to parents of "only children" and then we will have some fun with some responses that are intended to leave everyone feeling intact.

Please Don't Make Summer Pregnancy Any Harder

Sara Goldstein | Posted 09.10.2014 | Parents
Sara Goldstein

If you feel the need to utter these words to a pregnant woman in your life, or, God forbid, a woman you've just met, please know that she's calculating just how far she can reach beyond her belly to strangle the life out of you.

10 Things Pregnant Women Do Not Want to Hear Coming Out Of Your Mouth

Christine Skoutelas | Posted 08.18.2014 | Parents
Christine Skoutelas

"Oh my, your bump is getting bigger every day!"

6 Things You Shouldn't Say To A Divorcing Friend (And 1 Thing You Should)

Jessica Ciencin Henriquez | Posted 07.27.2014 | Divorce
Jessica Ciencin Henriquez

I am getting divorced. But what a great time to do it, I'm sharing my sorrows in fantastic company - Gwyneth Paltrow, Paula Patton, Hilary Duff. We ar...

9 Things Never To Say To The Parents Of A Newborn

Beau Coffron | Posted 09.02.2014 | Parents
Beau Coffron

Now that I have a 1-month-old child again, it has become abundantly clear that there are times when people just don't know what to say to me.

Oscar Winners: We Crave Genuine Gratitude

Suzette Standring | Posted 04.28.2014 | Entertainment
Suzette Standring

Oscar speeches and spirituality? Confession is good for the soul. At the annual awards, five little words set my teeth on edge, "And I want to thank," followed by the long, obligatory list of industry insiders. Just once I'd love to see someone get real about gratitude.

5 Things Not To Say To Your Partner About Losing Weight

Posted 02.16.2014 | Healthy Living

By Cynthia Sass, MPH, RD A scene in the fantastic film Enough Said made me laugh out loud and cringe simultaneously. Julia Louis-Dreyfus' character...

Say This If You Never Want To Have Sex With Your Wife Again

Posted 11.20.2013 | Divorce

Ever think to yourself, "Gee, you know what would be great? Never having sex again!" Of course you don't. And that's precisely why you should wat...

5 Things You Should Never Say to People With Cancer

Sarah Hale | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Sarah Hale

I can't say that before my experience I would have had the right words for someone with cancer. But, having been the guinea pig about 18 months ago, let me share some wisdom of what NOT to say.

9 Things You Should Never Say To An Empty Nester

The Huffington Post | Shelley Emling | Posted 08.19.2013 | Fifty

There are just some things that are better left unsaid, especially when you're speaking to a new empty nester. A seemingly innocuous suggestion -- "wh...

16 Things You Should Never Say To A Tall Woman

Posted 08.08.2013 | Women

Lots of people feel entitled to comment on a woman's appearance -- especially if that woman happens to be taller than them. Just as skinny women ar...

What Not To Say To A Cancer Patient

Dan Duffy | Posted 09.16.2013 | Healthy Living
Dan Duffy

I want to share a few thoughts with those of us who are either friends or loved ones of cancer patients or caregivers. We know that you love us, and want to comfort us, and we love and adore you for it. With that said, we will tear you a new one for saying any of the following platitudes.

5 Things Parents Need to Stop Saying to Non-Parents

John Kinnear | Posted 03.29.2016 | Parents
John Kinnear

"You think you're [insert anything here]? Try having kids!"

22 Things You Should Never Say To A Skinny Woman

The Huffington Post | Emma Gray | Posted 07.12.2013 | Women

Women of all shapes and sizes are (unfortunately) subject to judgment and scrutiny based on their bodies. We've written extensively about the very spe...

What Not To Say To Someone Who Is Gluten-Free

Posted 05.13.2013 | Healthy Living

May is Celiac Awareness Month -- and not in the "going gluten-free is totally in right now" way. While about a third of Americans say they are activel...