Men often don't have a network of "besties" to help them through a divorce. Our guy friends are busy with work and their kids' sports schedules, often helping out with coaching duties or whatnot. You'll get a few offers to "grab a beer" and catch up, but those offers will go away. Divorce for men can be very isolating.
Looking at myself in the mirror, something clicked in me. I no longer wanted to be beat down and depressed.
Things change with divorce, but not always for the worse.
There is something about single parenting that is, or at least can be, satisfying beyond what I ever expected.
We separate. We come together and we separate, wholly and completely, all the time now.
It wasn't my choice to get divorced, and for a while I held extreme bitterness at my ex for having destroyed what was, at least on paper, a "perfect" life.
It happened in the produce aisle of the Vons at the corner of PCH and Sunset Boulevard.
Many fathers who are divorced will agree that the most difficult part is not being with your children every day and feeling like you've become a visitor in their lives.
In a gray divorce, with a marriage that lasted two decades or more, when it comes to the friends you shared as a couple, the man is going to get hurt.
Men, most tend to shield their emotions. They kind of go about their life and act like nothing ever happened.
You'll be their dad for eternity -- and that's a big deal unto itself -- but the more authentic you are, warts and all, the more your kids will connect with you.
I was engaged at 23 years old, married at 25, and divorced at 27.
With today's technology, there is no excuse for a parent to be absent from a child's life.
The idea that mom can choose to leave and dad can choose to stay was foreign to many.
When a divorced man starts over in a new place, he has the chance to branch out from his one-room Man Cave to much more
Whatever you choose to do with your life after a divorce, it should come from a place where the pain of divorce does not cloud your decision. At the very least, divorce provides an opportunity to decide what you want for your future.