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10 Things You Probably Shouldn't Say To A Widow

Jasmine Cardinal | Posted 03.28.2016 | Women
Jasmine Cardinal

A few months after becoming a 30-year-old widow, I sought out support from people who could relate to me. It became apparent to me very quickly that many of us struggled, sometimes daily, with friends and family, sometimes even strangers, who say things to us that make us cringe.

Secrets for Successful Later-in-Life Marriages

Marcia Naomi Berger | Posted 03.23.2016 | Women
Marcia Naomi Berger

It's helpful to recognize special challenges of later-in-life marriages so we can deal with them constructively. The three to be addressed here involve money, sex, and "unfinished business."

8 'Stupid' Things Caring People Say About Grief

Mark Liebenow | Posted 03.15.2016 | Healthy Living
Mark Liebenow

Many people have not lost someone close. They want to help and take the pain away, but they haven't experienced grief and often say what makes those who are grieving feel worse. These are some of the phrases I heard after my wife died. If you're inclined to say them to someone who is grieving, do this instead -- ask how the person is doing, and listen.

Finding My New Normal In Widowhood

Emily Zarecki | Posted 03.14.2016 | Healthy Living
Emily Zarecki

While I was just embarking on a completely unknown journey called widowhood, knowing life would be very different was the only thing I was absolutely sure about.

A Love Affair With Life

Edie Weinstein | Posted 02.25.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Edie Weinstein

Over the weekend, I attended a conference that focused on relationships and the various ways we can engage both mindfully and heart-fully with each other.

Has Grief Made You Lose Your Mind?

Megan Devine | Posted 02.25.2016 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

Because we don't talk about the reality of grief in our culture, lots of grieving people think they're crazy. When my partner first died, I lost my m...

Dating A Widower Who 'Almost' Loves You

Sienna Jae Fein | Posted 02.14.2016 | Fifty
Sienna Jae Fein

On occasions when he makes no mention of his late wife, you and your widower have a great time together. He loves the attention you lavish on him and he tries to reciprocate. He takes you to trendy restaurants and shows you off to his friends. You're hoping his friendship will turn to passion.

A Valentine for Grief

Mark Liebenow | Posted 02.11.2016 | Healthy Living
Mark Liebenow

A year later, after I've forgotten about her and have begun talking to other women, she sneaks up, whacks me behind the knees, and down I go, sobbing. I wail that I missed her, but she brushes me off. Tells me not to forget again. And she's gone.

Life After Death: Cruising Through Life

Melissa Gould | Posted 01.21.2017 | Travel
Melissa Gould

We've had dinners and spent quality time with Joel's dad and step-mom, and to everyone's credit, they have welcomed Antonio not just into my and their granddaughter's life, but into theirs as well. It's a strange and beautiful thing for which I am truly grateful.

Delayed Grieving

Mark Liebenow | Posted 01.15.2017 | Healthy Living
Mark Liebenow

If we ignore grief and put it on the back burner, it will simmer, get thicker and harder, and it will be a royal mess to clean up.

Finding Beauty In Pain

Melissa Wilder Joyce | Posted 01.14.2017 | Healthy Living
Melissa Wilder Joyce

This is the story of when I received the call that my husband had died. To date, these are the darkest moments of my life. Here I will speak of not only the agonizing first few moments, but also the hope and beauty that I have found through the journey of grief.

Why This Widow Has Deemed This The 'Year Of No'

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 01.14.2017 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

Shonda Rimes has a wonderful new book called 'A Year of Yes', where she talks about being fearless enough to answer yes to new adventures. The loss of my sweet husband Peter has forced me to create my own opposite book -- 'A Year of No.'

The Man That Came After

Michelle E. Steinke | Posted 01.09.2017 | Women
Michelle E. Steinke

You were not in the plan. My story did not write the way I penned it. I penned happily ever after. I penned the fairytale ending with the same man I...

New Year's Eve Without My Husband

Debbie Weiss | Posted 12.31.2016 | Healthy Living
Debbie Weiss

Grief is not pretty. It is loneliness at a primal level. Like some organ has been removed and you can't really breathe properly. It's waking up each morning where your first thought is this is another day without your person. And in that way, without the you that you were. It's going to bed alone each night without him.

How To Practice Gratitude During Your Life After 50

Judi Freedman | Posted 12.30.2016 | Fifty
Judi Freedman

Tomorrow will mark eight years since my husband M died. As my grief instructor S said shortly after M's passing: 'The hole in your heart will get smaller, but it will never fully close.' S was right. My life has evolved a great deal since those dark days of December 2007.

When a White Christmas Turns Blue: Surviving Grief During the Holidays

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 12.21.2016 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

There may be many reasons to feel stressed during the holidays, but grief brings its own brand of challenges. If you're grieving this year and are wondering how you'll survive the season, use the following six suggestions to ease the way.

Time for an Open and Honest Discussion About a Crucially Important Women's Issue: Social Security

Nancy Altman | Posted 12.15.2016 | Politics
Nancy Altman

Because so few women have employer-provided retirement benefits or personal savings on which to rely, Social Security is disproportionately their sole source of income in old age. For 49 percent of never-married, divorced and widowed women aged 65 and older, Social Security comprises virtually all of their income. That is nearly one out of two single women!

She Was Pregnant When She Became A 9/11 Widow -- Here's Her Life Today

OWN | Lisa Capretto | Posted 12.15.2015 | OWN

On the morning of Sept. 11, 2001, Tammy Perconti received a phone call from her husband, Jon, who was working in the World Trade Center. "He called an...

Grief and the Terrible Holiday Season

Megan Devine | Posted 11.24.2016 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

Part of your family wants traditions to stay exactly the same, others want to change everything. Conflicting desires, broken hearts, lots of attention when you'd rather just hide in your blanket fort until the whole thing is over -- it's too much.

Dispatch: The Parliament of World Religions

Kristin Meekhof | Posted 11.01.2016 | Religion
Kristin Meekhof

A few weeks ago I had the honor of being a panelist at The Parliament of World Religions conference in Salt Lake City.

Victory Announced as Texas Judge Ordered By Superior Courts to Reinstate Transgender Widow's Marriage to Fallen Firefighter

Nikki Araguz Loyd | Posted 10.30.2016 | Queer Voices
Nikki Araguz Loyd

After nearly 6 years of fighting, my life has changed again with just one order.

The Gift of Loss

Kristin Meekhof | Posted 10.24.2016 | Healthy Living
Kristin Meekhof

C.S. Lewis said, "We read to know that we are not alone." I truly believe that this statement is correct. There is no greater loneliness that one can ...

An Open Letter to New Widows

Kristin Meekhof | Posted 10.21.2016 | Healthy Living
Kristin Meekhof

As painful as it is, literally setting small goals each day will help you through this very dark and lonely time. You may not understand and know the purpose for your loss. This will come later with openness and insight.

#TransWivesMatter: Presidential Recognition and Honor for the Transgender Widow of a Fallen Firefighter

Nikki Araguz Loyd | Posted 10.09.2016 | Queer Voices
Nikki Araguz Loyd

Nearly 6 years ago my firefighter husband, Captain Thomas Araguz, was killed in the line of duty. While this was a horrific tragedy, the torture continued as my marriage was voided and all of the support that most widows of fallen heroes receive disappeared.

Looking For Love Again: A Widow's Guide

Sienna Jae Fein | Posted 09.29.2016 | Women
Sienna Jae Fein

Finding a man with whom to continue life's journey depends on your ability -- and his -- to compromise. But as burdened with baggage as both of you are, it's hard to leap blithely onto the train. How to find contentment together when you're schlepping all that cargo?