Have you ever been in mid-conversation with a group of women and one says, "Oh, I've never had many female friends..."? Most times a few other ladies in the group would agree with her. But then there are some whose mouth drops open in surprise! How can you be a woman without women friends? Oh, wait... I was once THAT girl!
I was laying in bed when I thought to myself. "You know, Aleichia, there are just some things every woman should have." Call it our inalienable rights but I truly believe that we women are powerful and magnificent and we should have these tools to help us impact the world or even get through a rainy day!
For as long as I can remember, I've hidden myself. I definitely started hiding when I got old enough to walk down my NY streets alone. I became comfortable hiding my intelligence, my physical appearance, my truths, my thoughts, myself. But just the other day it hit me: Alicia! Why are you choosing to be that person?
Forty is a time contradiction and complexity, a.k.a. horrifying reality and inner turmoil. It's realizing that these are the days of questioning every decision, wondering about regrets, and realizing that life is short, and getting shorter every freaking day. It's when the terrifying reality sets in that yeah, THIS is life.
This week before Easter gives me cause to pause and reflect. Haven't men always failed to trust women, because somehow there is an innate belief that women are less trustworthy? But I'm reminded on Easter that Jesus did. And it tells me that somehow, when it comes to bearing witness to Him, He trusts me too.