Who do you think has a better time? Almost everyone remembers a party they hosted. Few remember the parties they minimally attended. The host is engaged, making it happen, talking to everyone. The guest is only waiting. Who are you? What would it take you to transform yourself from a guest to a host?
There are so many venues for talking these days, what's the point of trying to listen? We can post our every trivial thought on a thousand websites that reach a billion people instantly. I know people with full-time jobs who post so much on Facebook and Twitter, I marvel that they do any work -- unless of course their bosses are doing the same.