Women who have always been known to be great communicators seem to have a problem discussing this topic with each other. Women today need to be thankful they have a choice. Respect your choice and the choices other women have made, don't judge.
What is it that you're not doing -- in your work, in your life -- because you feel you need permission? If someone had given you that permission as a youngster, what do you think you'd be doing now? Do you think it's too late?